OK, seriously - I'm not heartless but keeping up a facade tends to keep people from coming to me in search of certain types of emotional validation.
For instance, if someone breaks down and cries in my presence, he or she will likely be treated to my "deer in the headlights" stare as I nervously shift from one foot to the other.
And hugging? Ewwww.
Eeeexactly. I dunno, I'll go to great lengths for friends, actually, you just probably won't hear me say "I love you" not as a joke or give you a hug. My friends know I care, though, even if other people maybe think I'm un-empathetic.
Okay so 17 was actually just a random number although I wouldn't be surprised if there are 16 other myths. (Yeah I would be)
Anyway, sometimes I think people think that INTPs are pretty emotionless or cold.
I just got an email from an INTP that made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
INTPs can be really warm.
That is all.
Have a nice day.
O...kay? Uhh, the stereotype is really that INTPs (and NTs in general) tend to be colder than other types, have less intense emotional responses, and are less aware of their emotions. No emotions and completely cold/dead is quite a jump. The fact that one person you thought was INTP sent one message that seemed warm... doesn't really demonstrate anything that people don't already know. I can't see why you're acting like this is so significant.
And by emotions, I'm guessing you mean warmer ones like concern, sadness, happiness, and desire for peace. NTs show plenty of fear, anger, and amusement, which are actually emotions. NTs may have less warmth, but less doesn't mean it's nonexistent, it just means it pales in comparison to that of, say, an ESFJ in everyday behavior.
NTs don't express their warmer emotions often, and it's usually very endearing and clumsy when they try. Enjoy it when you can, but don't remind them that they did it later on... it's really not good for them to remember or think about doing it when they're not in that mood. They're often quite fragile emotionally, which, if you think about it, explains why they hide their feelings under all that intellect. They're compensating for something. If their SF shadow gets out of control... it's kind of sad, really. They have to be protected from themselves at that point. Being an NT sounds hard... I think we have it easier in some ways.
I'm going to make a wild guess and say that that letter probably eked out all the emotional stores the INTP had for the month by just writing it. Be careful with him, especially if he's the type to get cranky when he's tired.
-Carefully taking sips from the Fire Hose of Knowledge