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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Linguist View Post
    That's interesting because I find myself getting more extraverted as I get older...Uh, is that weird or what?!
    This seems less "weird" than becoming more introverted. As you age, you usually start coming into your own more and getting more comfortable with yourself. Therefore, it's likely that you would be more willing to share your gifts and talents with other people, rather than keeping them inside.

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    I'm less shy, but more of a homebody than I used to be and I have a lower tolerance for crowds.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cafe View Post
    I'm less shy, but more of a homebody than I used to be and I have a lower tolerance for crowds.
    That's what I mean. I've never been shy, exactly, and I still don't mind crowds... providing that they aren't all out for interaction with me.

    But I have less and less of an interest in going out and being social. Like a previous poster had said, maybe we just become more and more what we are as we age. Kind of like a sculptor working with clay: As it gets molded, it takes shape into what it is, and once it's fired, it becomes what it will be forever.

    But is the firing through time, or through experiences gained in that time? As time goes by, I find myself getting neater, more exact, more efficient, and less in tune with the feelings of those around me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Maabus1999 View Post
    As of this weekend, I was at a dinner party and MBTI came up, and 5 women thought I was extroverted just because I smiled, was outgoing, and seemed to be socially acceptable/popular. I just looked at them and laughed, telling them basically what I just said above, backed up with some examples of my behavior they have seen. Hopefully their minds are opened now.
    Yea, those chicks didn't really understand what Extraversion is in the MBTI sense. My INTJ friend is one that can get ridiculously talkative and enthusiastic about things he's interested in BUT he will only really do this around his closest friends- in a superficial sense, he could get mistaken for an Extravert. However, he hates parties and places where there is an abundance of social interaction. He will go and enjoy himself if it's a group of his friends but he finds me silly for enjoying the bar/club scene.

    Quote Originally Posted by Enyo
    I think what I mean to say is I have less interest in being around people and need my alone time more and more. I'm finding social interactions more difficult, less meaningful. People exhaust me because they don't make much sense.
    That's what I mean- more negative interaction OR negative associations toward socializing- more likely to become introverted. The question is: Are you an extravert or an introvert?
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    I think it can depend on what phase of your life you are in, too. Right now, I have quite a bit to keep up with, but I could see meeting up with other old biddies for coffee, etc daily one of these years.

    I think maybe what we feel less of as we get older is an obligation to do things we don't want to just because we're 'supposed to.'
    “There are two novels that can change a bookish fourteen-year old’s life: The Lord of the Rings and Atlas Shrugged. One is a childish fantasy that often engenders a lifelong obsession with its unbelievable heroes, leading to an emotionally stunted, socially crippled adulthood, unable to deal with the real world. The other, of course, involves orcs.”
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    Quote Originally Posted by Enyo View Post
    But I have less and less of an interest in going out and being social. Like a previous poster had said, maybe we just become more and more what we are as we age. Kind of like a sculptor working with clay: As it gets molded, it takes shape into what it is, and once it's fired, it becomes what it will be forever.

    But is the firing through time, or through experiences gained in that time? As time goes by, I find myself getting neater, more exact, more efficient, and less in tune with the feelings of those around me.
    I used to be strongly introverted. Now, people who don't know me well sometimes mistake me for an extravert. I'm much happier, and actually work somewhat more efficiently to make up for the increased talk and social time.

    Growth is about assimilating characteristics of our opposite type into our personality. This is done through both experiences and evaluation over time.

    I'm significantly happier being more extraverted. Are you happier now being less extraverted?

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    Quote Originally Posted by JAVO View Post
    I'm significantly happier being more extraverted. Are you happier now being less extraverted?
    Happier? Not sure. Much more at peace because I don't feel like I'm "on stage" all the time. When I was a housewife, if I wanted interaction, I'd go out. But I was content to stay home for days on end.

    Now that I'm working again, I find working with the public to be simple. I'm on stage when I work with the public, but I don't have to stay on long enough. I only work with two or three people at a time, so it isn't overtaxing.

    What's overtaxing is trying to work with my staff. :P
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cality View Post
    Oooo cool! A well socialised INTJ!! Shame that you live in the US!
    Can always come visit! I can show you the wonderful world of the South! Extremely exciting! We can even see if we find a local with more then 2 teeth (if it is a she, I call first dibs).

    Actually isn't bad, a lot of the forum members here seem to be from North Carolina. And where I live, I have a choice of any type of recreational activity within 2.5 hours of my house Makes my INTJ skill drive very happy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maabus1999 View Post
    Can always come visit! I can show you the wonderful world of the South! Extremely exciting! We can even see if we find a local with more then 2 teeth (if it is a she, I call first dibs).

    Actually isn't bad, a lot of the forum members here seem to be from North Carolina. And where I live, I have a choice of any type of recreational activity within 2.5 hours of my house Makes my INTJ skill drive very happy.
    You also can come and visit France... Interesting country with wierd food and surprising people !

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