I know one INTJ girl. At least, she claims that is what she is, and she seems familiar with the MBTI and has taken at least one test, so I believed her (kinda). She sure doesn't act like a person I'd recognize as INTJ, though.
Maybe society has conditioned women not to act like stereotypical INTJs, so INTJ women are harder to spot than INTJ men?
This is undoubtedly an important statement to consider.
An observer might notice these qualities of a natural INTJ female:
a) withdrawn INxx
b) exacting and logical xxTJ
How much success might this combination have in the social world? Driven by competence, an xNTx will want to succeed, period. I started piano lessons when I was 6 years old; I played a variety of different sports since I was 5 (soccer, softball, volleyball and rowing were the team sports I participated in regularly).
These were all opportunities to learn, by trial and error, how to be a successful girl in many different arenas. Ready, aim, fire and reaim with more data the second time...
I learned social dynamics and power plays (girls' fighting is FAR more about sending vibes and undercurrents) by playing team sports. I learned far more quickly than my male INTP close friend, who is also musically and athletically (and intellectually) accomplished.
My environment demanded that I either withdraw and reinforce my negative qualities, or go out, take some risks, make lots of errors, and learn how to be a more balanced human being.
You must also take into account environmental things like, for instance, me growing up with my 2 parents and 3 siblings all being xxFx types.
I look like an ENFJ, occasionally an ESxP, in large gatherings. It's once you get to know me that you see the dominant Ni. (Get me one on one and ask my opinion on something of consequence.) My natural Te is sheltered by years of Fe conditioning and inner Fi development. It comes out when I am stressed, when I am tired, or when I am pwning A+ papers with the Ni/Te supercombo.
*You don't have a soul. You are a Soul. You have a body.
*Faith is the art of holding on to things your reason once accepted, despite your changing moods.
Also, you can't "get" her to like you. If she likes you she likes you, and if she doesn't, she doesn't. Life isn't like a movie; you can't give a person flowers and completely change their thought of you.
If you're intelligent, interesting, and not a total asshat, you have a good chance of her liking you, but if you try to make the girl like you, you're going to end up looking desperate, which is an enormous no-no. (at least for me, anyway...I can smell the stench of desperation and run screaming whenever I encounter it)
Same here. I ended up ditching a friend over this one issue because he could not get it through his head that I just did not want him. It's been over five years and I'm still not talking to him.