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    Default WIll COnfronting Someone Make an INTJ Feel Better?

    I'm an 29-year-old INTJ, and two years ago, I was basically a basket case, screaming in the woods, and feeling psychosomatic chills in summertime. I was crazy, and not I'm not, but I seem to have lost my drive, which for an INTJ is unheard of.

    I used to think faster than I wrote, my mind overflowing with ideas, like an INTJ ought, but now my mind churns up its own sludge repeatedly, rather than generating anything new.

    I'm still unemployed, but at least I'm not crazy. I can't really enjoy anything, though, like I could when I was crazy, however. Exhausted, I still felt more enthusiasm now.

    I wonder if confronting people I was mad at in the past would make me feel better. Then I was crazy, now I'm not, but I still think I'm right. That, or forgive, which would, I suppose, be ideal, but I'm not sure that I should, just as I'm not sure it would help just now. At any rate, I think arguing in itself would give me mental energy. Feeling a little mad now 'n then is better than total drifting.

    What say you all?

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    I was bit too hasty, with that "CO" in confronting, I see...

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    You can edit the title to correct it. And you can delete the 2nd post pointing out the problem.
    I am not J, so this may not be on point, but I have found that, if something sufficiently bugs me, I will be in a rut until I confront it. It will get turned over and and over and given outrageously inappropriate amounts of analysis until then. This uses up so much energy and mindspace that other things get neglected. Strengths atrophy. Only after facing the beast(s) will I be able to move on.
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    Your past craziness sounds like me when I get extremely stressed/depressed.

    I wanted to say though that if your still in that frame of mind, and you argue with issues in your past or persons in your past. You will make it even worse. After the argument you will probably over analyze it to an insane degree. And thus drive yourself more crazy and obsessed.

    If you are in the right frame of mind though. And approach your past issues or past persons with a calm mind and peaceful heart. Wanting only to solve the problem and making sure they understand that as well. Then the chance that all will fail will be less.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Spartacuss View Post
    You can edit the title to correct it. And you can delete the 2nd post pointing out the problem.
    Thanks, but I think I'll leave it.

    Quote Originally Posted by Spartacuss View Post
    I am not J, so this may not be on point, but I have found that, if something sufficiently bugs me, I will be in a rut until I confront it. It will get turned over and and over and given outrageously inappropriate amounts of analysis until then. This uses up so much energy and mindspace that other things get neglected. Strengths atrophy. Only after facing the beast(s) will I be able to move on.
    I agree. I tried to, by my solution unwaveringly involved witness to my judgment, but they kept resisting because of my obvious anger, which only got me more frustrated. Now, I'm not angry, but I don't know that this is a matter of personal honor, but I think that it is. I haven't had anyone support it, but now, I feel calmer, but my drive ain't there, which is why I want to do this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DigitalMethod View Post
    Your past craziness sounds like me when I get extremely stressed/depressed.
    Yeah, but my mind's not roaring, and I want it back. RIght now, I'm feeling adrift, and I want a spark.

    Quote Originally Posted by DigitalMethod View Post
    I wanted to say though that if your still in that frame of mind, and you argue with issues in your past or persons in your past. You will make it even worse. After the argument you will probably over analyze it to an insane degree. And thus drive yourself more crazy and obsessed.

    If you are in the right frame of mind though. And approach your past issues or past persons with a calm mind and peaceful heart. Wanting only to solve the problem and making sure they understand that as well. Then the chance that all will fail will be less.
    I'm calm, at least, and as for my heart, only save when I get surprised, and I feel twinge of fear, which is out character for me historically. As for me, I'm too laid back, and not in the least driven, which is a problem.

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    I border on the i/e so this may be of some use. In the past when I was in an extremely stressful and anxiety inducing environment I found that working out, and I mean pushing your physical limits, worked wonders for me. An intense workout followed by thirty minutes or so of laying under a tree, or whatever relaxes you, was exactly what kept my sanity. Also it will help to increase your mental energy.

    As far as the past, fuck it, let it go, do not allow anyone that much control over your mental state. Just determine to never allow yourself to be in that position again whatever it was.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DigitalMethod View Post
    Your past craziness sounds like me when I get extremely stressed/depressed.

    I wanted to say though that if your still in that frame of mind, and you argue with issues in your past or persons in your past. You will make it even worse. After the argument you will probably over analyze it to an insane degree. And thus drive yourself more crazy and obsessed.

    If you are in the right frame of mind though. And approach your past issues or past persons with a calm mind and peaceful heart. Wanting only to solve the problem and making sure they understand that as well. Then the chance that all will fail will be less.
    Bingo here. And yes, sometimes an INTJ needs to fall to realize that it sucks to fall as an INTJ, and gets up. After I went through a serious depression/thinking I was flawed stage, I ended up being a much better person in the end then I was before going in. Just find your focus.

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    Maybe finding a hobby or something active to take yourself out of yourself will help. I think sometimes people need vacations away from themselves in order to get some perspective and drive back. I find, odd as it is, manual labour of some sort a decent device for putting my brain away for a while.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kyrielle View Post
    Maybe finding a hobby or something active to take yourself out of yourself will help. I think sometimes people need vacations away from themselves in order to get some perspective and drive back. I find, odd as it is, manual labour of some sort a decent device for putting my brain away for a while.
    I have a hard time "getting away from myself". The only thing I've found is something mindless like spider solitaire, and all that does is just cover when I'm depressed. (Not thinking, not feeling... which sucks anyway, because I don't really understand feelings... but just exisiting = spider solitaire.)

    Maybe I should just keep trying stuff to find that escape?

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