ENTJs can be seen as bullies simply because their overwhelming desire is to remake the world so it makes sense to them. The idea that this is impossible is like a red rag to a bull, literally, they charge around in a heightened state of anger.
What ENTJs tend to lack is a means to honestly consider their opposite. It takes a long time for them to value what appears to be without value. Perhaps what they would be best considering is "It isn't stupid if it works".
Having had long discussions with an ENTJ (who eventually got fed up and told me to go online and find other INTPs to address my questions, hence joining INTP Central all those years ago) I find that given adequate reason they will consider their point of view. More so if they consider you competent.
Having had similar long discussions with an INTJ, they do the exact same thing...they just don't always tell you how they just owned you through superior reasoning. My favourite statement was when my INTJ friend (someone who before that point I'd always assumed I held the position of "someone I socialise with on occasion") told me that he considered me a friend and said "I find you....interesting". Highest praise ever.