Also happens all the time. You live and learn. And yeah, some of that stuff? Is really creep. But did you ever bother just telling him it was creep without also judging him? Usually I find girls tend to be creeped out--but never say they are.. so the dude just keeps doing the creepy stuff unaware.. just as unaware as you were. Y'all sound both young and still learning.Yes I messed up but at the time I didn't understand him.
You know what they say about assumptions. Look, follow your instincts. The only difference between romantic acts and creep acts is if you find the guy attractive or not. There's little difference outside of that. He has no reason to be verbal and direct--he was on first. He was as direct as he knew how. And it made things worse. Of course his natural reaction is to pull back. Just like it was yours. It's okay to listen to instincts.. but following them to a T isn't always the best course. You never break out of your comfort zone and make more efficient things muscle memory that way.And since he isn't very verbal and direct unless I corner him, I'm sort of left assuming things.
Except you don't know if the issue is ignored just because he didn't talk to you about it yet. Or, maybe its eating him alive trying to figure it out. Or maybe some other nice girl is talking to him and he's conflicted. Orrr, here's a crazy one, you told him he could take his time without consequence and so he is... measuring his thoughts and actions perfectly before he reaches back out again either way. There's a hundred scenarios for plausible and understandable reasons why he'd delay responding. Nothing to be upset about though--especially if you literally told him it was cool.That being said I get what your saying. I messed up. I can't expect for him to come running back to me after I messed up as much as I did. And I'm okay with that but why not just say "no I don't want to be your bf" and leave it at that. I would respect and understand that more than plain ignoring it.
He could very well be ignoring you. Trying to block this whole thing out for a while, get his head straight, be vengeful.. whatever. You don't really know.. speculating doesn't help, and usually harbors resentment that could put a damper on if something positive does happen or is going on that you can't see.
it happens. You'll figure things out. And besides, not all INTJs are creep. Some are pretty in tune with things. Immaturity has a lot more to do with this than type.I'm generally good at reading people under normal circumstances, btw. But in this situation I plain sucked. But now I know if I do ever date an intj again how to approach it differently. It's a learning experience. I just learned a bit too late.