Of late I'm becoming more and more frustrated in situations where I'm speaking with others. I'm told I'm vague and not straight forward, that if I assume or guess at what someone is meaning that I need to fix these problems. To me, I'm not vague and I'm straight forward. My method of asking for clarification is too vague because I'll use a short hand.
And on the flip side of the coin, I'll say something factual with someone else, and they'll make assumptions about my feelings about these things. "you must be depressed if you've tried everything and are now giving up"
So I'm in a bind here with the ISFJ friend I'm too vague and jumping to conclusions and not just listening for a very straightforward no undertones method.
And on the other hand my other INFP friend makes assumptions and doesn't take what i say in a straight forward way meaning the conversation I start is derailed for often over an hour as I walk thru my reasoning, and all the torturous advice on how I can fix what I've already decided to abandon because clearly the problem is some deep seated issue that will happen every where when that's not been the case prior.
So I have someone saying to me "take what I say at face value" and I have me saying "take what I say at face value" and arghhh so frustrating!
Has anyone else experienced this?
I love my friends dearly, abandoning them is not an option.