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    I have a hard time giving the standard "ooohhh thank you so much, ................" when I appreciate what someone has done for me. I'll simply say thank you and maybe tell them why I appreciated what they did. A true showing of appreciation isn't in how good you are able to say Thank You but how the appreciation effects your future actions with that person.

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    i recall the INTJ i had would insist on buying me things
    and then go hell hunting for it-she is solely responsible for my sade coollection
    she wrote a book of poetry for me
    and would call me after school everyday-get possessive
    we'd talk for hours on end
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    Quote Originally Posted by AvereX View Post
    i recall the INTJ i had would insist on buying me things
    and then go hell hunting for it-she is solely responsible for my sade coollection
    she wrote a book of poetry for me
    and would call me after school everyday-get possessive
    we'd talk for hours on end
    a possessive INTJ... ouch that sounds bad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ajblaise View Post
    I have a hard time giving the standard "ooohhh thank you so much, ................" when I appreciate what someone has done for me. I'll simply say thank you and maybe tell them why I appreciated what they did. A true showing of appreciation isn't in how good you are able to say Thank You but how the appreciation effects your future actions with that person.
    Conceive of appreciation in broader terms . . . not just for something they did for you but appreciating them as a person. What now?
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    Quote Originally Posted by IF3157 View Post
    Conceive of appreciation in broader terms . . . not just for something they did for you but appreciating them as a person. What now?
    Yeah I'll view that as a separate kind of a more general appreciation. There's appreciation for someone being a loyal friend and for specific acts.

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    I do stuff. I fix stuff. I solve problems. I entertain (not like song-and-dance/juggling acts but I provide nibbles and beverages). I pay for stuff. I never make demands.

    If they want touchy-feely, I advise them to get a cat - see, still solving problems.

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    I tell the person that I appreciate what they did, might add a note about why I appreciate it if I think they need the affirmation.

    Sometimes, depending on the situation and what it is I'm appreciating them for - if it's just something they did for me that I appreciate - then I'm likely to get them a gift or render some service in return that makes us even. Keep the slate clean, so to speak until I know if they're a slate-watcher

    But if we're talking about appreciating someone on a more personal level rather than just stuff they do for me, basically, I invite them to join me in my leisure time.

    It has been noticed in the past that simply not turning someone away when they come to me is not necessarily a great sign that I appreciate their company or even like them at all - it could very well simply be my sense of duty to humanity in general that makes me unwilling to turn away a person in any kind of need even if it's my least favourite person. But if I actually take the intiative myself and invite them, then that is a really big deal, that's me saying: I officially want you to be my friend because I totally appreciate the rockin' person you are. You have been headhunted! I hope that people would notice the significance of this and not keep fishing around for verbal compliments and expressions of appreciation... I will toss them out if I sense a person needs one, but it won't take many times of having to do that before I start to go cold on them.

    I wouldn't invite someone I didn't truly appreciate just to avoid being bored and alone, cos I know that whether I invite people or not, there's an above even chance that someone or other will turn up any damned way.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MacGuffin View Post
    Ts: thank you

    Fs: I try hugs, cause the words they are looking for usually feel false to me

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    Quote Originally Posted by Uytuun View Post
    You an F now?

    Makes sense.

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    Depends a lot on how close I am with the person. If I'm very close (say, a girlfriend) then I have no problem explicitly thanking both in verbal and touch form. If I'm not very close, I'll just say "thank you" or something like that.
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