[MBTI General] Why do INTJs spare INFPs their wrath?

[chubber]

No, I'm a new "member" too timid to reply honestly to the replies that interest me, so I've just been enjoying the conversation. If I responded, I'd be an aggressive OrangeAppled, and since I can't stand the heat, I stay out of the kitchen (except, in this case, to place an order).

Interesting that you associate with her.

And, how will you stand the heat when the INTJ is going to give you heat 24/7.

 

[Obsidius]

INTJ's are by nature confrontational, NFP's tend to ignore the "live and let live" types. We find them more tolerable, and when we can tolerate someone, it's like a diamond among the coal. So yeah, we'll defend you.

 

[Jade Heart]

INFPs are cute little fluffy snuggy plushies. Even INTJs are powerless to lift a finger against them.

Okay, so that might not be it. I guess that INTJs have soft spots for them? The INFPs I know hold the "smart" types (i.e. most NTS) in reverence, so maybe INTJs recognize that and withhold their wrath because they like having the INFPs look up to them. Also, I really do think that just maybe, INFPs can melt INTJs' hearts with their Fi-dom. They're so...personal and deep at the same time. (From what I've seen.)
INTJs may seem cold, but most of them have a gentle side. INFPs could be one of the types that get to see that side. Even though I'm an INTP, I can see how an INTJ would be reluctant to smash an INFP's hopeful idealism to bits.

 

[HongDou]

Is this like the new INTJ/ENFP fetishist thread?

 

[xenaprincess]

yeah, i think INFP-INTJ is a complicated relationship! you don't hear too many INTJs raving about us but there are definitely lots of INFPs in long term relationships with INTJs... i suppose the key is for the INFPs to communicate more frequently, develop a bit of a thicker skin + for the INTJ to be mindful of tone + listen to the ways in which the iNFP says they want to be supported

I agree with this.
I don't think an immature INFP and immature INTJ could get along so well. And the INFP will definitely develop a thicker skin.

There may be issues though because INTJs are not particularly affectionate or romantic.

 

[Kullervo]

Because they're hoping they'll get laid.

 

[Coriolis]

Is this like the new INTJ/ENFP fetishist thread?

It's the unofficial INTJ/INFP fetishist thread, unless you (ENFPs) are going to fight them for it.

 

[chickpea]

INFPs are cute little fluffy snuggy plushies.

 

[Qlip]

It's the unofficial INTJ/INFP fetishist thread, unless you (ENFPs) are going to fight them for it.

Hell yeah, I'm not going to stand by while you try to take my INFPs away. *wards off with cross*

 

[HongDou]

Hell yeah, I'm not going to stand by while you try to take my INFPs away. *wards off with cross*

The famous ENFP crucifix that piques the brooding INTJ's curiosity? I have one of those too!

 

[Qlip]

The famous ENFP crucifix that piques the brooding INTJ's curiosity? I have one of those too!

I was thinking more along the lines of the exact replica of the jewel encrusted Cross of Coronado from Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade (1989), while wearing a brown fedora and playing it completely straight (heh). Gotta use the right bait for the right fish.

But.... yeah.

 

[ceecee]

well, it's as close to 'wrath' as i've seen on these forums. perhaps i should have left it at 'negative' because i've rarely heard positive thoughts about romances with INFPs by INTJs. i think they get very frustrated at how extremely sensitive we can be and how we commonly withdraw from conflict. A lot of us are off in our own worlds a lot of the time + understandably this can frustrate partners.

I think this is the problem. In a friendship or other casual relationship, I could let it slide. In an intimate relationship - no. But I can certainly see an INTJ or ENTJ really loving it in a partner, if they wanted someone who isn't confrontational and won't challenge them.

 

[Coriolis]

I was thinking more along the lines of the exact replica of the jewel encrusted Cross of Coronado from Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade (1989), while wearing a brown fedora and playing it completely straight (heh). Gotta use the right bait for the right fish.

But.... yeah.

You're both wrong if you think foolish superstition will stand between an INTJ and his/her goals.

Try again.

*This might be part of the explanation of the OP: we "spare INFPs our wrath" because unleashing it on them would be counterproductive.

 

[Qlip]

You're both wrong if you think foolish superstition will stand between an INTJ and his/her goals.

Try again.

*This might be part of the explanation of the OP: we "spare INFPs our wrath" because unleashing it on them would be counterproductive.

It was in reading this response that I finally understand the attraction of the INTJ, and in that knowledge I feel so much more ENFP. I need a shower now, not sure if it should be cold or boiling.

 

[prplchknz]

It was in reading this response that I finally understand the attraction of the INTJ, and in that knowledge I feel so much more ENFP. I need a shower now, not sure if it should be cold or boiling.

both at the same time

 

[Qlip]

both at the same time

You always have the answers, prplz.

 

[prplchknz]

You always have the answers, prplz.

thats why they sale chocolate and vanilla swirled ice cream at costco

 

[grey_beard]

Is this like the new INTJ/ENFP fetishist thread?

Hope so (looks around for popcorn).

 

[grey_beard]

I agree with this.
I don't think an immature INFP and immature INTJ could get along so well. And the INFP will definitely develop a thicker skin.

There may be issues though because INTJs are not particularly affectionate or romantic.

I'm feeling ornery tonight for personal reasons (OK, I biked 34 miles round trip to work and it was too freaking hot on the way home...)
so I hope you won't mind if I use you as the target for my personal carpet-bombing campaign...

Tell me, if you please, how well you think the following series of cartoons fits the INTJ - INFP dynamic (tongue in cheek, that is; I don't really think it does except for the mutual curiosity...)

Go to the links at the bottom of the address below (the tool didn't let me embed it, sorry!) and follow through the whole chain.

374: Journal - explain xkcd

 

[xenaprincess]

INFPs are cute little fluffy snuggy plushies. Even INTJs are powerless to lift a finger against them.

Okay, so that might not be it. I guess that INTJs have soft spots for them? The INFPs I know hold the "smart" types (i.e. most NTS) in reverence, so maybe INTJs recognize that and withhold their wrath because they like having the INFPs look up to them. Also, I really do think that just maybe, INFPs can melt INTJs' hearts with their Fi-dom. They're so...personal and deep at the same time. (From what I've seen.)
INTJs may seem cold, but most of them have a gentle side. INFPs could be one of the types that get to see that side. Even though I'm an INTP, I can see how an INTJ would be reluctant to smash an INFP's hopeful idealism to bits.

Please note, I'm not at all cute or fluffy or snuggy. That's the INFP cliche.
On the outside, my INTP female friend and I are very similar. She and I both tend to be quiet, and seem a little cerebral.