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    There is a girl that is a friend of a friend and I had this "click" with her. I have never spoken to her, neither on facebook or person to person and I wanted to hear some ideas of how to approach her. I have never done this kind of thing before so the ideas that I have are a bit weird, so I wanted to read some ideas that apply easier to the real world.
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    Is your friend a guy?

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    No it's a girl-friend and not that close friend.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ALL-HAIL-ME View Post
    No it's a girl-friend
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    I suppose you can ask her to introduce her friend to you? Women are usually good with that stuff.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rasofy View Post
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    I suppose you can ask her to introduce her friend to you? Women are usually good with that stuff.
    Well then she would know that i'm into her so I will be compromised. But it sounds realistic.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ALL-HAIL-ME View Post
    Well then she would know that i'm into her so I will be compromised. But it sounds realistic.
    What if she just seemed nice? I mean there is no way you could know whether or not you would even want to go on a second date with her.. Only way really that you would compromise anything is to think that she is any good without even speaking to her, that just shows that you project something onto her and will be perceived as creepy.

    Maybe you could tell your friend that this girl seems like a nice girl and looks good and magic will happen(hopefully).
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    Quote Originally Posted by INTP View Post
    Maybe you could tell your friend that this girl seems like a nice girl and looks good and magic will happen(hopefully).
    I thought about that. Maybe I will do it after all.
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    For me I will feel uncomfortable approaching a new person without a reason to do so. Sometimes if I really want to meet them, I will create a reason to do so. Either observe something they are doing that is of some interest, and ask them about it. See if the conversation is at least somewhat comfortable and allow it to build. The problem with this is it can end as quickly as it began. It's much better to find a reason to have to be around them for an extended period of time. A crowded lunchroom for example, can be a good venue. It's then easy to make sitting close to the person of interest reasonable, then begin conversation. If you want to go full-creeper mode, try and find some type of orginzation or club they are part of and begin attending it.

    Ultimately, look for some kind of tangible reason external to the person of interest so that way it seems and feels natural to get to know them.
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    Eh? You don't even know anything about this girl. What is there to like? Seems like this is all just in your head. That's a bad omen if you ask me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by zago View Post
    Eh? You don't even know anything about this girl. What is there to like? Seems like this is all just in your head. That's a bad omen if you ask me.
    I'm not so sure... if you want to improve your chances of meeting someone, you have to make an effort to pursue different options. She might be really nice, who knows? First impressions are accurate a lot of the time. And even if she isn't really nice, it sounds like the OP has some kind of clearly definable reason for wanting to get to know her nonetheless. And what does he have to lose?

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