1) Social skills is learned in the playground without any finnesse. It's just a matter of drowning or surviving, and that, society deems good enough.
First, you spelled "finesse" wrong. /obligatory-INTJ-snark>
Second, I drowned. Still trying to recover. I think some of my INTJ-ness was revenge for being cruelly snubbed merely for being socially ineffectual without hostility on my part.
2) And in college you can study psychology, and Pr and what have you, but even there - the highest degree in psychology is a doctorate - and its all IQ and research based. It's the scientist approach.
Echoes conversations I have had with a psychologist.
3) Funny enough, I have more respect for those who are actually competent counsellors and only hold a Bachelors or a Masters in Psychology as they *actually* know what the fuck they are doing within their field, as they are putting their knowledge to use instead of just observing. Sadly, their competence aint guaranteed by that degree either. PR, yes you need to have some social graces to get ahead, but mostly enough to game the system. If I see what kind of laughable standard we demand from 'social professions', compared to the average standard set on IQ in most jobs, I want to cry. Bunch of fucking EQ frauds, no offence.
Yes, true psychology -- "counseling" is much more *art* than science. The social disciplines have thrown away what it means to *be* human, and to relate to the client on that level *first*. But because of the societal prestige of the sciences, and of a PhD -- ya gotta have one to impress the patient, and keep the govt. off your back: shades of patent medicines and quackery before there the Pure Food and Drug Act of 1906 (IIRC), when you could buy cough syrup with opium or codeine over the counter. But most of the "art" of psychology is wisdom, not knowledge.