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    Default NT Women Dating Preferences

    What do you look for in a man, both physically and in personality?
    How do you feel about traditional gender roles?
    What did you look for in boys-physically and in personality-when you were in high school/college?
    Do you ever wear revealing clothing? What is your primary method for finding a man?
    When choosing a guy, do you focus your energy on one guy at a time or do you test the waters and choose the best one?

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    What do you look for in a man, both physically and in personality?
    I'm much more about personality and intelligence than looks but if you're good looking, its a plus. I want someone kind, considerate, and intelligent who shares common interests. As far as looks go, as long as you're not repulsive to look at and you're well-groomed and care about your health you're fine.

    How do you feel about traditional gender roles?
    I prefer that roles not be gender related and that people do what they do best and are interested in. If the female happens to like the traditional stuff associated with females that's fine. If the male prefers doing the stuff typically associated with females that's also fine.

    What did you look for in boys-physically and in personality-when you were in high school/college?
    Personality and intelligence. I wasn't interested in boys in high school. I didn't start dating until college.

    Do you ever wear revealing clothing?
    No.

    What is your primary method for finding a man?
    I don't initiate relationships, I wait for the man to approach me.

    I don't really have a method for finding that special someone. I just wait for it to happen.

    When choosing a guy, do you focus your energy on one guy at a time or do you test the waters and choose the best one
    One guy at a time.
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    What do you look for in a man, both physically and in personality?
    Physically: in reasonably good shape, fit and well-groomed.
    Personality: relaxed/low key; good sense of humor; honest and open-minded; willing to try new things, but not averse to some routine/predictability in life; compatible with a relatively introverted/homebody lifestyle

    How do you feel about traditional gender roles?
    They have long outlived any utility they may once have had. People should do what makes sense for themselves as individuals/couples in their given situation.

    What did you look for in boys-physically and in personality-when you were in high school/college?
    I didn't look for boys in HS - far too busy. Had one BF for a while - he was the one who bothered to seek me out. We enjoyed some of the same activities and thus had fun together.

    Do you ever wear revealing clothing?
    No. Uncomfortable, impractical.

    What is your primary method for finding a man?
    Go about my business, doing the things I enjoy doing, and remain alert to potentially compatible guys.

    When choosing a guy, do you focus your energy on one guy at a time or do you test the waters and choose the best one?
    One at a time. The last time, however, I was preparing to end a relationship at the same time as a new guy was catching my attention, so I had the opportunity for some direct comparisons.
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    Am female ENTP, will answer.

    What do you look for in a man, both physically and in personality?

    My experience level is such that I haven't come up with any clearly-defined rubric.

    How do you feel about traditional gender roles?
    I was completely oblivious to them till I read Mars/Venus in college and became horrified by what I am "supposed" to be. I have no desire to fulfill mine and hope to make it through life without becoming a mother.

    What did you look for in boys-physically and in personality-when you were in high school/college?

    Again, no rubric. Sorry.

    Do you ever wear revealing clothing? What is your primary method for finding a man?

    I kind of hope they come to me first. I just assume I'm creepy and undesirable and don't make any efforts toward trying. My clothes are artistic and form-fitting; I'm not sure "revealing" is accurate, or not. I'd kind of like to let relationships happen rather than force them, though.

    When choosing a guy, do you focus your energy on one guy at a time or do you test the waters and choose the best one?
    There's never a pool to choose from, so it's always been one-on-one (which was like, twice in my entire life, so take that with a grain of salt). I'm not as good at focusing on the broad masses, though, so I imagine this would be the rule.

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    Quote Originally Posted by obzen210 View Post
    What do you look for in a man, both physically and in personality?
    My aesthetic is androgyny, I like men with fine bone structure, lithe forms and faces that you have to look hard at to decide. I like men with varied interests, spontaneity, naivety and an artistic bent.

    Quote Originally Posted by obzen210 View Post
    How do you feel about traditional gender roles?
    That they are a moronic concept.

    Quote Originally Posted by obzen210 View Post
    What did you look for in boys-physically and in personality-when you were in high school/college?
    As above.

    Quote Originally Posted by obzen210 View Post
    Do you ever wear revealing clothing? What is your primary method for finding a man?
    No. Flashing cleavage only makes you a target for testosterone laden morons who think their dick is your fantasy. No thanks. I find boyfriends through everyday activities, shopping, bookstores, work related activities.

    Quote Originally Posted by obzen210 View Post
    When choosing a guy, do you focus your energy on one guy at a time or do you test the waters and choose the best one?
    Usually one at a time. It's typically someone I've met up with (stalked) a few times. Scared yet?

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    Quote Originally Posted by obzen210 View Post
    What do you look for in a man, both physically and in personality?
    Stronger, braver, smarter, taller, solid boundaries, loving parents, morals, high-standards, self-control, higher education, career aspirations...

    Not afraid of bugs, ladders, chainsaws, water, wind, fire, height, depth, hurdles, flat tires, laughter, tears, lipstick on the cheek, babies, bibles, the smell of perfume...

    Afraid to wear pink, smoke, or do drugs.

    How do you feel about traditional gender roles?
    I am proud to be old-fashioned in that way and I won't settle. A woman is what I am. If I have to act like the man in the relationship, then we've got a problem. I simply can't feel the respect and attraction to a man that isn't masculine and it's not something I can force.

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    Quote Originally Posted by obzen210 View Post
    What do you look for in a man, both physically and in personality?

    How do you feel about traditional gender roles?

    What did you look for in boys-physically and in personality-when you were in high school/college?

    Too young to really know what I was doing.

    Do you ever wear revealing clothing? What is your primary method for finding a man?

    When choosing a guy, do you focus your energy on one guy at a time or do you test the waters and choose the best one?
    Smart. Taller than me. I like 'em thick (all over), because I'm no porcelain butterfly. Accomplished. Doesn't mind when I try to destroy them in argument. Can't talk down to me. EVER. Funny. Playful. I like quiet guys more than the outgoing type. Engineers who don't know how hot they are really appeal to me...

    I believe another woman responded well to this. I also have made it through my highly fertile period without having any children. And I frequently celebrate this fact whenever I hear how much other women's lives are constrained by offspring. I love kids, but I don't want any. Gender? I feel like I'm my own gender. My triple D bust and nuclear brain power often intimidate and surprise.

    Yup. When I want to be sexy I show off my curves and rack, but only with form fitting clothes and a pushup. Online suits me best since I don't like flirting even though everyone says I flirt with everyone. I do not.

    I am a serial monogamist, but not a cereal monogamist. I do paleo.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WhoCares View Post
    My aesthetic is androgyny, I like men with fine bone structure, lithe forms and faces that you have to look hard at to decide. I like men with varied interests, spontaneity, naivety and an artistic bent.



    That they are a moronic concept.



    As above.



    No. Flashing cleavage only makes you a target for testosterone laden morons who think their dick is your fantasy. No thanks. I find boyfriends through everyday activities, shopping, bookstores, work related activities.



    Usually one at a time. It's typically someone I've met up with (stalked) a few times. Scared yet?


    Quote Originally Posted by Sanjuro View Post
    Am female ENTP, will answer.

    What do you look for in a man, both physically and in personality?

    My experience level is such that I haven't come up with any clearly-defined rubric.

    How do you feel about traditional gender roles?
    I was completely oblivious to them till I read Mars/Venus in college and became horrified by what I am "supposed" to be. I have no desire to fulfill mine and hope to make it through life without becoming a mother.

    What did you look for in boys-physically and in personality-when you were in high school/college?

    Again, no rubric. Sorry.

    Do you ever wear revealing clothing? What is your primary method for finding a man?

    I kind of hope they come to me first. I just assume I'm creepy and undesirable and don't make any efforts toward trying. My clothes are artistic and form-fitting; I'm not sure "revealing" is accurate, or not. I'd kind of like to let relationships happen rather than force them, though.

    When choosing a guy, do you focus your energy on one guy at a time or do you test the waters and choose the best one?
    There's never a pool to choose from, so it's always been one-on-one (which was like, twice in my entire life, so take that with a grain of salt). I'm not as good at focusing on the broad masses, though, so I imagine this would be the rule.



    Quote Originally Posted by Coriolis View Post
    What do you look for in a man, both physically and in personality?
    Physically: in reasonably good shape, fit and well-groomed.
    Personality: relaxed/low key; good sense of humor; honest and open-minded; willing to try new things, but not averse to some routine/predictability in life; compatible with a relatively introverted/homebody lifestyle

    How do you feel about traditional gender roles?
    They have long outlived any utility they may once have had. People should do what makes sense for themselves as individuals/couples in their given situation.

    What did you look for in boys-physically and in personality-when you were in high school/college?
    I didn't look for boys in HS - far too busy. Had one BF for a while - he was the one who bothered to seek me out. We enjoyed some of the same activities and thus had fun together.

    Do you ever wear revealing clothing?
    No. Uncomfortable, impractical.

    What is your primary method for finding a man?
    Go about my business, doing the things I enjoy doing, and remain alert to potentially compatible guys.

    When choosing a guy, do you focus your energy on one guy at a time or do you test the waters and choose the best one?
    One at a time. The last time, however, I was preparing to end a relationship at the same time as a new guy was catching my attention, so I had the opportunity for some direct comparisons.



    Quote Originally Posted by Such Irony View Post
    What do you look for in a man, both physically and in personality?
    I'm much more about personality and intelligence than looks but if you're good looking, its a plus. I want someone kind, considerate, and intelligent who shares common interests. As far as looks go, as long as you're not repulsive to look at and you're well-groomed and care about your health you're fine.

    How do you feel about traditional gender roles?
    I prefer that roles not be gender related and that people do what they do best and are interested in. If the female happens to like the traditional stuff associated with females that's fine. If the male prefers doing the stuff typically associated with females that's also fine.

    What did you look for in boys-physically and in personality-when you were in high school/college?
    Personality and intelligence. I wasn't interested in boys in high school. I didn't start dating until college.

    Do you ever wear revealing clothing?
    No.

    What is your primary method for finding a man?
    I don't initiate relationships, I wait for the man to approach me.

    I don't really have a method for finding that special someone. I just wait for it to happen.

    When choosing a guy, do you focus your energy on one guy at a time or do you test the waters and choose the best one
    One guy at a time.



    Quote Originally Posted by phdenial View Post
    Smart. Taller than me. I like 'em thick (all over), because I'm no porcelain butterfly. Accomplished. Doesn't mind when I try to destroy them in argument. Can't talk down to me. EVER. Funny. Playful. I like quiet guys more than the outgoing type. Engineers who don't know how hot they are really appeal to me...

    I believe another woman responded well to this. I also have made it through my highly fertile period without having any children. And I frequently celebrate this fact whenever I hear how much other women's lives are constrained by offspring. I love kids, but I don't want any. Gender? I feel like I'm my own gender. My triple D bust and nuclear brain power often intimidate and surprise.

    Yup. When I want to be sexy I show off my curves and rack, but only with form fitting clothes and a pushup. Online suits me best since I don't like flirting even though everyone says I flirt with everyone. I do not.

    I am a serial monogamist, but not a cereal monogamist. I do paleo.




    Quote Originally Posted by A window to the soul View Post
    Stronger, braver, smarter, taller, solid boundaries, loving parents, morals, high-standards, self-control, higher education, career aspirations...

    Not afraid of bugs, ladders, chainsaws, water, wind, fire, height, depth, hurdles, flat tires, laughter, tears, lipstick on the cheek, babies, bibles, the smell of perfume...

    Afraid to wear pink, smoke, or do drugs.


    I am proud to be old-fashioned in that way and I won't settle. A woman is what I am. If I have to act like the man in the relationship, then we've got a problem. I simply can't feel the respect and attraction to a man that isn't masculine and it's not something I can force.


    Thank you to each and every one of you lovely ladies who contributed to this thread. I sincerely appreciate your response. God bless, I hope each and every one of you has a great day!

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    What do you look for in a man, both physically and in personality?
    As far as physical preferences, I really like guys with intense, large eyes. Long hair is also a big plus. Tattoos are nice. And I like a slim-to-medium build. For personality, the two most important factors are sense of humor and loyalty. It's essential that they are funny and spontaneous (I prefer SP types) and that they're not going to leave me for some ESFx girl.

    How do you feel about traditional gender roles?
    I absolutely despise them as much as humanly possible. I don't think there's anything I hate more than traditional gender roles. I like being the strong one, the protector. I want us both to provide, and I want us both to take care of household chores.

    What did you look for in boys-physically and in personality-when you were in high school/college?
    I'm in college now and I have a boyfriend, but I guess I find a guy attractive when he is rebellious, anti-authority, up-to-date on current events, spontaneous, funny, and laid back. I'm not a fan of uptight people. Long hair is the one thing that instantly attracts me on a physical basis. If a guy is wearing a band tee, that usually catches my attention as well.
    In high school, I was a hopeless romantic so I went for the classy, mysterious, bearded goth guys. It was a phase that I will never, EVER revisit.

    Do you ever wear revealing clothing? What is your primary method for finding a man?
    I literally just scrolled back to see if you were an INTJ. It doesn't say though I don't really wear revealing clothing. I'm not against sexuality or anything, but it's just not really who I am. I'm a tank-top-and-oversized-jacket type of woman. When I like a guy I start by adding him on facebook or somethingand taking an interest in the things that interest him. This is easy considering my "type" typically likes the same things I like.

    When choosing a guy, do you focus your energy on one guy at a time or do you test the waters and choose the best one?
    I'd like to say I test the waters, but in reality I'm pretty prone to infatuation, so I sort of do both. I tend to go back and forth, putting my energy toward one guy for a few days or weeks and then turn 90% of my attention toward someone else. Of course, I don't do this when I'm in a relationship. That would be shitty. My current boyfriend (ISFP) won against an ENTJ though, because I knew I wanted someone who really cared about me and would put as much effort into the relationship as I would.
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    What do you look for in a man, both physically and in personality?
    - I think I search more for personality traits than physical ones. When I find a guy interesting, he looks more handsome than before getting to know him. I mean, I could say I like tall, hairy, pale guys with black hair and green eyes, but if they don't interest me as humans/rare specimens, they are "meh" and I'll try to look for someone else.

    How do you feel about traditional gender roles?
    - Gah. I'm more "boyish" than many guys I know. I'm not a tomboy, but close. If I could have chosen a gender before being born, I'd have chosen male, and would probably gay, haha I, as a gal, can't understand women at all. I prefer simple, funny and direct approaches. In a more philosophical way, I don't care, we are all humans, there should be no difference. Everyone should be able to do whatever they feel like regardless their gender, as well as other controversial yet stupid divisions.

    What did you look for in boys-physically and in personality-when you were in high school/college?
    - I once found an excerpt of a movie I don't remember, in which a girl was asked what kind of guys she liked, and she responded "I like guys who like me". Given that I'm beyond-extraterrestrial weird, that's a good start. I like smart, creative, funny guys who don't mind spending some minutes in silence doing nothing and let me have my alone-time and aren't depending all the time on what Imay or may not do, independent thinkers.

    Do you ever wear revealing clothing? What is your primary method for finding a man?
    - Revealing? I believe I have some "assets" that can't be hidden no matter what I do. But I don't dress to provoke. T-shirt, baggy pants, shoes, with no laces if possible. I hate all the golden sequins and high heels fashion. A pony tail or not even that. I don't go trying to find anyone. If they cross my way, perfect, if not, I go on with my life.

    When choosing a guy, do you focus your energy on one guy at a time or do you test the waters and choose the best one?
    - I first see who "chose" (what an ugly word) me, and then see if we are compatible. I don't date guys I haven't been friends with before because I like knowing them first. For me, "romance" is kind of an effort, so I don't want to waste my energies on someone who is not worth it.
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