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  • I have in the past, but I'm over it now

    3 16.67%
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    Default INTPs: do you have commitment issues?

    As in committing to a relationship. I've heard this more than once, so I'm wondering if it's a thing. Where do you stand and why do you think that's the case?

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    I've never had commitment issues, and it's never crossed my mind. If anything, I fit the stereotype of the INTP that would settle down with the first (good) woman that comes his way. I kinda like to get it over with. I'm either interested, not interested, or trying to figure out which (active process, and I'm usually partially interested at that point, but I'm checking to ensure that everything is legit).

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    My ENTP ex was an actual commitment phobe. I'm pretty sure he's an ENTP.

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    I have, mainly due to my lack of spare time and my personal space requirements. There's not much room for a relationship in my life.
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    My INTP knew me less than two months when he asked me to marry him. I was kind of freaked out, but I liked him so I thought I'd see how it went.
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    One of my friends had an INTP that didn't want to "label" what they had even though it was basically a relationship. Right before she left for school he realized what he wanted with her and now they're in an open relationship.

    Another one of my friends and this INTP guy had a thing but they didn't really work out for whatever reason. I think he said he liked what he had with her too much and he didn't want to risk losing it.

    My ENFJ bestie was in a relationship with an INTP for almost 3 years, but they were constantly fighting and on-and-off with each other. Like I remember they would break up every month. After they grew tired of it all they had a clean break up and now they're friends, but immediately after the INTP guy started dating this INFJ girl that he had been talking to while he and my ENFJ bestie were going out. It was so obvious she was into him too since she basically isolated herself from all her friends except one and the INTP guy.
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    Until now I've never been 100% certain that the woman I was with was 'the one,' though I remained as committed as I could be to those women while we were together...but in the back of my mind I think I was always waiting for the other shoe to drop, which probably hastened the process.

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    Not really. The idea of a lifetime monogamic arrangement doesn't sound very alluring to me though...So many opportunities to discard...

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    I was in a 3 year relationship with an ENTP. He was very committed. He was with his next girlfriend for a few years too and they seemed to have a serious relationship not lacking in the commitment area. The two INTPs I know are both in committed long-term relationships. One is married to an INFJ and has two kids and one has been with my ENFJ friend for like over 10 years.
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    Commitment issues? I've never been in a relationship long enough to find out.

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