An INTJ I know is in a serious Ni-Fi loop. I was looking over this thread and it fits him perfectly. He's a conspiracy theorist who's always bringing up these ideas that frankly sound crazy to me, and he is paranoid. When he does this, I'll ask him straight out: "What evidence do you have for this?", and he'll normally just say things like, "I've read a lot, and I see the patterns throughout history. If you read a lot too, you'll see it." I also point out to him when I see a logical fallacy in what he's saying. But he just starts feeling hurt and says things like "Why do you never believe me about anything?"
Also, he just doesn't seem to see that his theories aren't panning out. He said to me the other day that things he's predicted for 20 years have always come true and (jokingly) said he must be psychic. I have known him this long, and I KNOW this isn't true by a long shot, and I'm shocked he can't see it.
My motivations for asking about this are that 1) honestly, I have to see him since he's family and he's driving me crazy. And 2) I see that he's alienating everyone around him because he never allows the possibility that someone else might have a point in disagreeing with him, and then he gets hurt that people don't agree with what he's saying and when people don't want to be around him. I don't like to see him hurt.
So I want to help him, but I don't know how. From what I know about loops, it would help him to use his Te more often. I'm wondering if there's a way that I could encourage him to develop it? Or is there anything else that I could do to help him?