I can think of a few reasons why people would hate INTJs but a lot of them would be based on assumptions made (maybe because of our cold exterior) that most INTJs don't really care about clarifying. We may also come across as condescending but thats just a Dom/aux Te thing
No. INTJs, like ISTJs, are extremely passive people. Where is this dominating thing coming from? We come off as condescending to people who are oblivious to reality (to the point where they grate our nerves) and to people who are spouting total lies.