I have never met an INTJ in real life that I didn't like and I've never met one that didn't like me.
I am close to one particular INTJ. He is a member of my inner circle, my confidant.
A student said to his master: "You teach me fighting, but you talk about peace. How do you reconcile the two?" The master replied: "It is better to be a warrior in a garden than to be a gardener in a war." - unknown/Chinese
I don't think I hate INTJs, but I do get frustrated. So many times that now I don't think it's merely coincidence an NTJ and I will start talking about something then it's like we're talking a different language but think we're speaking the same language and it will end up being 20 hour argument/debate over a single sentenced uttered. Sometimes we realize we're looking at the same thing two different ways, and everything is fine, others we both walk away thinking "what an idiot" about the other person. That could be a failing on my part, it probably is
Of the NT types, I understand them the least and their popularity taints my perception of them.
Well at least you're honest about the fact you're going with the herd. Most people would invent some bullshit justification to make it sound like they thought about it. That's admirable at least. My guess would be a combination of....
- Rigid thinking. Most people like the idea they can persuade others. It doesn't suit them when someone resists that notion. It's not so much we are rigid, it's more that if we change our minds we'll do it in our own time and usually after quiet reflection to fully digest the reason for the change. Not because someone cajoled us into it.
- Cold demeanor. I'm incredibly cold in person, unless the other person has somehow made it into my inner circle, then I'm like a warm cinammon bun fresh out of the oven. I'm picky about who I spend my energy on. Gregarious people don't like that.
- Preference for internalised knowledge. We don't automatically pick up the lastest and greatest idea's. Each one has to be examined and tested against the internal world view to see if it has validity first. Often comes across as a lack of enthusiasm and resistance to change.
- I don't know if this is INTJ or just me. But I really dislike people who play mental games or argue because they like arguing. I've always hated debate with a passion. I just have no time for this. So I guess I come across as dismissive to people who consider they are being playful. I just find them to be dicks.