I have been in the ENTP/ENTJ relationship for about a year. We have had a crisis app. half the way, but have survived it, more or less resolved the issues and for now it keeps growing and blooming. We are happy together and enjoying each others company, while spending almost all free time together, more or less living together both at my and his place in turns. I'm not in a rush to move together right now but I'm considering it as an opportunity during the next year or so, maybe even sooner.
My partner has in the meanwhile began looking for a new apartment, as he is very tired of his rental place in the suburb and he wants to move downtown. He is looking for an apartment for himself and his two kids and he is not really involving me in the process. I don't really know how to interpret this situation. In my opinion it would be wise to wait a bit. When we both feel ready we could make a decision as to whether or not we would like to move together. And first thereafter find something together. If he buys an apartment now and invests serious money in it, I hardly believe he is going to sell it in a year or so in order to move together with me. So I would probably end up accepting his choice of the apartment, and accepting things without having influence is just NOT my strong side. He says that I make a problem out of something which is not and we'll deal with issues when they will appear.
Doe's his behaviour indicate that he is not really taking me seriously as a long turn partner with whom he is going to build a life together or should I relax and trust that he says that we will figure out what to do when time comes? It's very difficult for me to understand why he can't just wait. And If he is not really taking me seriously maybe its the best place and time to leave, as I'm interested in a partner not just to play with but to share my life with...
ENTJ's or others with the insight of ENTJ's mentality, can you please help me out with interpreting this situation? I'm worried that I may misjudge things and make some fuck up's.