So l talk with a few INFJ's and am fully aware of how great the pairing is supposed to be.
l think the reaction to Fe will vary greatly, personally. l like an INFJ as a casual friend but find l am VERY quickly drained by the Fe.
For a few reasons that could be situation specific but most likely somewhat common-
The Fe user tries to tell you what your own feelings are, when you haven't even been thinking about them yourself.
The Fe user may have an exaggerated reaction to any emotion you do display or analyse your emotions too much. Maybe this most importantly:
l feel like the Fe user thinks about my emotions while we don't speak and it makes me feel like my inner privacy is being compromised...this is confirmed by their tendency to share things with me that suggest they've been thinking about me while we don't speak.
The Fe user requires more consistent display of Fe from you than you can give.
For the record, l'm not an NT who shuns emotions at all and l find by doing so, we only draw people in who think we're emotionally crippled and need to be nurtured. l don't seem to benefit from nurturing, l am a woman which doesn't mean that l am the nurturing one necessarily...but something about being nurtured feels off to me.
l'd rather be independent and l actually don't mind displaying moderate levels of Fe to a partner.
l simply don't feel right at all on the receiving end of Fe.
Wondering how this varies.