INTPs have an interesting relationship to control because for the most part I've noticed the type doesn't desire to control or be controlled. If the need for autonomy is especially strong, it can result in some forms of control that can be unconscious because of requiring behaviors to accommodate those specific needs. I think the unconscious control in MBTI terms comes from the Si-Fe which can have very specific needs in relationship to the concrete world and socially. It isn't consistent, and I'm not suggesting it applies to all INTPs, nor is it intended as a criticism. It is just interesting because the type can by nature be one of the least controlling overall, but there can be unexpected pockets of control that creep in - sometimes without awareness.
Edit: I think this is the result of the tension between a need for autonomy and the fact that humans evolved as interdependent groups. Some degree of autonomy is realistic, but at some point it can become an illusion that actually requires something from the group to maintain. I am just suggesting a certain tension that results from the inner and outer worlds that can require the exertion of control to maintain. I'm not certain that makes sense, so I'll try to come back and articulate it better.
This might help: In order to be consistently non-controlling socially, one must possess a great deal of personal adaptability as well as some measure of autonomy. If there is a lack of adaptability, then there will likely result some need for control over others, at least in those instances where the two must interact and negotiate needs. This can include fleeting, incidental interactions or with deeper social connections.