I don't really take it personally, in sense of been good enough. I know I'm good enough and I don't need to prove it to anybody. I just want to make things work, as that is what I want. And if that involves learning and adjusting to my partners needs I'll do that, not all the way and maybe not exactly the way he contemplates it, but i'll make an effort. However it is not going to happen in one day, it will take an effort from my partner too, and he would have to cope with some failures on the way. But can ENTJ's deal with that? That frightens me most... His extremely low tolerance of any imperfections.