I am at the end of a relationship and dealing with some very rare, very hurt feelings and, I'm sure she is as well. I had some reactions that caught me off guard as they aren't typical for me, normally I just don't care enough about an outcome to have a reaction and very, very few people are allowed into my life far enough to hurt me. I'm not going to go into more details on what happened as there are two people involved, two different realities and two different interpretations. So, my question is, how do you deal with hurt feelings as an ENTP, both in dating and friendships or family.
I'm asking because in the interest of my own self awareness I would like to understand which aspects of me are nurture and which are nature and sort the flaws out accordingly. I flipped my shit, felt overwhelmed by emotions I couldn't quickly identify and was a handful to deal with (more so than normal) in my words and "emotionally abusive" in hers, was my reaction an attempt to feel more secure, anger, a desire to be taken care of, total frustration and emotional constipation, I actually don't know hence this post.
What I'm sure of is that the truth is someplace in the middle, maybe I am emotionally abusive, maybe she's super sensitive, maybe both. Any way you cut it, I want to get to the bottom of it so it isn't something that's repeated.
So how do other ENTPs react to hurt feelings?