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    Default How do I (an INFP) become an ENTP?

    I'm tired of being an INFP. All I ever do is feel, think and make myself promises to help me become a perfect person. I constantly break my promises. Everyday I wake up thinking, 'Today will be the day that I start life and become the ideal me.' I. Always. Fail. The fact that I can't change myself sickens me.

    I'm irretrievably overwhelmed with emotions-the world is so beautiful and there's so much pain in it. I want every single human being to be happy, to be the best person they can be. It's too big though, I don't know how to help the world because it's too chaotic and I don't know everything, not even close. If I did know everything I wouldn't know how to organize that information, I don't even know how to organize my current thoughts. There are to many factors in life and to me, life is overwhelming, confusing, hard, chaotic, a puzzle, uncontrollable- it's too much and it's too hard.

    I want to become an ENTP. I want to be like Barney Stinson, the Joker, Bugs Bunny, Tom Sawyer, Tyler Durdan, Jack Sparrow, Ferris Bueller, Tony Stark.. some are arguably not ENTP, but I hope you understand what I'm looking to become. I want to not be so emotional.. I want to be clever, tough, adventurous, brave, quick-witted, persuasive, and most of all, in control.

    Like an INFP, ENTPs see the world as full of possibilities, the difference is that they know how to navigate it.

    Please tell me specific steps I can take, actions I can do, thoughts I can think to become an ENTP. Thank you.

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    You don't.

    You realistically can't become an ENTP, but even if you could, it wouldn't make life any easier. ENTPs don't really know how to navigate - ENPs fly by the seat of our pants, riding the waves of possibility and new information, and sometimes we get swept under and scraped along the bottom. Js are more into the art of navigation, but they tend to lose the journey for focus on the map.

    I used to do the same thing of waking up and trying to be perfect - I still get caught up in that sometimes - and it never works. But you can do one little thing to start moving that direction, and then another, and then another. You know how to change one little facet of yourself to be more like who you want to be. You know how to help one person in one little way - then another, then another. Baby steps, all the time, every day. You don't have to wake up and suddenly be where you want to be, all you have to do is start moving just a little bit in that direction, and then move a little more, and a little more. It's in movement that you can find yourself as the person you want to become, not in the stillness once the becoming is over. I am working on this one myself.

    As an INFP you can be all those things you want to be - clever, tough, adventurous, brave, quick-witted, persuasive, and in control. You just will have to be them in your own INFP way. A clever INFP would probably be literate and witty. A tough INFP would probably be decisive and stand their moral ground. An adventurous INFP (I have a close friend who I believe is an adventurous INFP, by the way -) would probably be (she is) creative, exploratory, and flexible. A brave INFP would probably be ready to speak up against injustice. A quick-witted INFP would probably have that snarky dark sense of humor. A persuasive INFP would probably tug at others on an emotional and value-based level. An in-control INFP would know what she wants and be relentless about pursuing it.

    You will never become your best self if you try to become an ENTP instead.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Abbey View Post
    I'm tired of being an INFP. All I ever do is feel, think and make myself promises to help me become a perfect person. I constantly break my promises. Everyday I wake up thinking, 'Today will be the day that I start life and become the ideal me.' I. Always. Fail. The fact that I can't change myself sickens me.

    I'm irretrievably overwhelmed with emotions-the world is so beautiful and there's so much pain in it. I want every single human being to be happy, to be the best person they can be. It's too big though, I don't know how to help the world because it's too chaotic and I don't know everything, not even close. If I did know everything I wouldn't know how to organize that information, I don't even know how to organize my current thoughts. There are to many factors in life and to me, life is overwhelming, confusing, hard, chaotic, a puzzle, uncontrollable- it's too much and it's too hard.

    I want to become an ENTP. I want to be like Barney Stinson, the Joker, Bugs Bunny, Tom Sawyer, Tyler Durdan, Jack Sparrow, Ferris Bueller, Tony Stark.. some are arguably not ENTP, but I hope you understand what I'm looking to become. I want to not be so emotional.. I want to be clever, tough, adventurous, brave, quick-witted, persuasive, and most of all, in control.

    Like an INFP, ENTPs see the world as full of possibilities, the difference is that they know how to navigate it.

    Please tell me specific steps I can take, actions I can do, thoughts I can think to become an ENTP. Thank you.
    Have a brain transplant? You cannot change your type, ENTP is out of your reach. However some of the strengths you seem to desire are not. My first question is: how old are you? Becoming an INFP does become (ever so slightly!) easier IMO as you get older. Also, the NeSiTe will develop themselves if you let them and you would become more rounded and thus better able to navigate the world. The Fi is a strength and not a weakness. It works with the Ne (for the most part) and not against it. If you have trouble applying yourself then I would suspect that is a lack of Te - difficulty organising and lack of tolerance for the follow up as you have no value of it.

    My advice: Become comfortable with Ne, find people (in real life if possible) who you can exercise it around and don't be afraid to make mistakes. Ne is like a vehicle, you need to put your foot down on the pedal and it gradually accelerates until you are cruising at top speed. Once it is you may find that you aren't so different from Bugs Bunny or Captain Jack Sparrow after all.

    I do know what you mean, I have often wished I were an NT type too. But ENTPs have issues we don't have to face and why not have (most) of the strengths without having the same weaknesses?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Abbey View Post
    I'm tired of being an INFP. All I ever do is feel, think and make myself promises to help me become a perfect person. I constantly break my promises. Everyday I wake up thinking, 'Today will be the day that I start life and become the ideal me.' I. Always. Fail. The fact that I can't change myself sickens me.

    I'm irretrievably overwhelmed with emotions-the world is so beautiful and there's so much pain in it. I want every single human being to be happy, to be the best person they can be. It's too big though, I don't know how to help the world because it's too chaotic and I don't know everything, not even close. If I did know everything I wouldn't know how to organize that information, I don't even know how to organize my current thoughts. There are to many factors in life and to me, life is overwhelming, confusing, hard, chaotic, a puzzle, uncontrollable- it's too much and it's too hard.

    I want to become an ENTP. I want to be like Barney Stinson, the Joker, Bugs Bunny, Tom Sawyer, Tyler Durdan, Jack Sparrow, Ferris Bueller, Tony Stark.. some are arguably not ENTP, but I hope you understand what I'm looking to become. I want to not be so emotional.. I want to be clever, tough, adventurous, brave, quick-witted, persuasive, and most of all, in control.

    Like an INFP, ENTPs see the world as full of possibilities, the difference is that they know how to navigate it.

    Please tell me specific steps I can take, actions I can do, thoughts I can think to become an ENTP. Thank you.
    You don't need to become an ENTP. You need to develop Te, and many of these problems would be solved.

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    But ENTP's have Ti not Te. I feel like extroverted judging types can be controlling, I get really controlling when I do use my Te. It annoys me.

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    I expected to hear you can't change your type. The biggest thing I want to change, which I probably should've specified in my original post, is that I'm tired of wanting to change. I'm tired of trying to be perfect. That's why I want to be an ENTP, they don't seem to care to be perfect. I basically just want to be the opposite of what I am.
    I'm 16 years old, which could be a reason why I'm so emotional.
    Thank you all for replying with your wise advice.

    Why can't one change his MBTI type?
    Where does one's MBTI type come from?

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    I think you're supposed to think lovely thoughts or clap your hands or both. Either way, it requires pixie dust. Lots of pixie dust.

    Quote Originally Posted by The Great One View Post
    You don't need to become an ENTP. You need to develop Te, and many of these problems would be solved.
    Or this.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Abbey View Post
    I expected to hear you can't change your type. The biggest thing I want to change, which I probably should've specified in my original post, is that I'm tired of wanting to change. I'm tired of trying to be perfect. That's why I want to be an ENTP, they don't seem to care to be perfect. I basically just want to be the opposite of what I am.
    I'm 16 years old, which could be a reason why I'm so emotional.
    Thank you all for replying with your wise advice.

    Why can't one change his MBTI type?
    Where does one's MBTI type come from?
    If I may post a response there are many proposed reasons why someone cannot change their type. My preferred one is that MBTI and function theory are just attempts to define the brain into different processes and that the stronger a function the more developed parts of the brain were. It follows that to change your function order you would need to develop parts of the brain you don't use as much to the point where they have more potency than your previously developed areas.

    I have a question for you: Are you truly tired of trying to be perfect or are you merely tired of feeling exhausted whilst in the process of attempting to become and/or tired of shame or frustration when you don't feel you have succeeded? Do you feel you would be content with a pursuit of being perfect if the process was pain-free?

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    The latter, I want to be perfect, but it's too hard. I can barely even do things normal people can do, like complete homework on time. Then I change for awhile, do my homework for like a month and after, revert back to being lazy, unmotivated and just sad.
    I'll never give up on trying to be better though, which is the worst of all. I'll never be satisfied.

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