I would say that this is probably Ni vs. Ne, except that I know quite a few xNFJs who go out of their way to be completely and fully understood - much worse than me So I guess I'm still confused.
I think you're right; to me, anyways, INTJs can often come across as dismissive to any opinion that they disagree with, and then are so curt about it that I get this vibe from them as if they're saying "I hate it, end of story. Don't talk to me anymore about it because there's no point." How would you recommend that friends of INTJs deal with this miscommunication?EDIT: This also may be partly the reason why INTJ's seem close-minded. I can't speak for the behalf of all INTJ's, but I really am open-minded, but people seem to think otherwise because even if I understand their opinion, they can't understand mine.