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    Quote Originally Posted by BryNTP View Post
    What would it take to force an INTJ to realize that a plan or a course of action that they have decided on is failing? It seems like they are more willing to attempt to bend life to fit the plan instead of change the plan to fit life.
    For me, it depends how entrenched in the plan I am, and how much time I've spent invested in it. If I have to write a paper and I outline it a certain way, but it isn't coming out right and I have an idea about how it could work better, I'll definitely change it.

    However, if the general way that I've been living my life for years and the worthiness of the goals that I've been working for are challenged, it would take a LOT to make me change the course of my entire life. I would "bend life to fit the plan" and sort of try to throw out the challenging evidence for a while. After that, I don't know what I would do at all. Don't want to think about it too much.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bea View Post
    ...infact i am a stickler for manners but people dont hear my please and thank yous because of my tone of voice. any advice on how i can improve myself? should i just stop working with people altogether?
    This is rather super complicated >_<
    I'm straight forward too, so i know it's really uber annoying when ppl just can't say things as they are.
    I think a good way to fix behaviors is to really look into urself and see if ur not doing some of it, it helps to relate and therefore understand how to fix both urself and the relationships.

    The way one moves is also important, but i dont know about u, avoiding eye contact or stuffs like that can be percieved negativly.

    Just an idea, i dont really have enough information to have a clear idea.
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    Does size really matter?
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    INTP... I think not.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bea View Post
    hi i am a classic intj and really struggle maintaining relationships...particularly in the workplace. people think im rude and tactless mainy because i ask a straight question and perhaps niaevely expect a straight answer. i get frustrated when people dont do the job as well as i feel it could be done and dont care for small talk or after work socialising. as i am an intj female i struggle to create those female bonds and see the gossip and idle chit chat as draining, irratating and completely uniteresting. however i know that if i am to get anywhere and prevent the constant personality clashes and the hurtful comments that get thrown my way after these then i need to learn how to at least appear tactful and interested in others and their long winded waffling ideas. i really dont want to come across as cold or impolite...infact i am a stickler for manners but people dont hear my please and thank yous because of my tone of voice. any advice on how i can improve myself? should i just stop working with people altogether?
    I used to have this problem... but after a while I realized that it was easier to make my plans happen when people cooperated with me. I've learned to try to make mental notes of the things going on in peoples lives and let them in on some of mine. I'm more of a listener than a talker... but there are plenty of people out there who love to hear themselves talk so it works out well.

    It may sound 'calculating', but use that INTJ mental filing system of yours to remember at least one key thing about a co-worker that you can talk with them about, and build on it. Try to stop and think before you chime in on group discussions to make sure it won't be taken the wrong way... and laugh and smile a lot, even if you have to fake it!

    On days when you can't stand to be around everyone, pretend you're really busy and when people want to talk tilt your head, give a half smile and say 'Man I'm SWAMPED today! We should do lunch when this lets up though'. Then 'answer' your apparently vibrating cell phone with 'Hello?' and mouth 'I'll talk with you in a bit' to your co-worker.

    Embrace the possibilities.

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    Ooh, an agony column. can I ask a question?
    When INTJs make decisions about people/things, barring significant life-changing events, epiphanies, etc, should silence (in the context of temporarily busybusy schedules) be interpreted as a maintenance of a status quo
    Ugh, just realised how conditional and contextual my qn was.
    INTJs don't change their minds much do they? That was what i meant.
    But with all that introverted intuition, and that internal world, can much change inside without external stimulus?

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    Quote Originally Posted by pockets View Post
    Ooh, an agony column. can I ask a question?
    When INTJs make decisions about people/things, barring significant life-changing events, epiphanies, etc, should silence (in the context of temporarily busybusy schedules) be interpreted as a maintenance of a status quo
    Ugh, just realised how conditional and contextual my qn was.
    INTJs don't change their minds much do they? That was what i meant.
    But with all that introverted intuition, and that internal world, can much change inside without external stimulus?
    (general answer to a general question)
    For me, silence means that I need time to process variables and formulate something coherent... Or that I don't care much about the outcomes (e.g. what/where to eat). I often leave such insignificant questions up to someone else.

    I don't change my mind much about general/huge things, like where I want my life to go, the ethical principles that I live on, or who I want myself to be. With regards to things that I don't really care about, change and spontaneity can make things interesting.

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    My best friend in high school was an INTJ. I'm an ENTJ. What do you guys really think about ENTJs? Do you normally get along with us? Do we annoy you?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rangler View Post
    My best friend in high school was an INTJ. I'm an ENTJ. What do you guys really think about ENTJs? Do you normally get along with us? Do we annoy you?
    My best friend is an ENTJ. I think she can be unneccessarily aggressive when there's no gain in it, but we have a very direct relationship. We can say what we mean easily without offense, and we have the typical NT understanding. Our humor is similar and generally offends most sensibilities.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 01011010 View Post
    My best friend is an ENTJ. I think she can be unneccessarily aggressive when there's no gain in it, but we have a very direct relationship. We can say what we mean easily without offense, and we have the typical NT understanding. Our humor is similar and generally offends most sensibilities.
    Haha In my experience male INTJ humor is pleasurably disturbing. My friend joined the infantry. I have a lot of respect for INTJs.
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    tell me the secret behind your willpower.

    when it comes to willpower you guys are the best. so what's the secret?

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