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    Quote Originally Posted by Il Morto Che Parla View Post
    It's very common to hate phonecalls.

    Phonecalls suck because the majority of human communication is non-verbal, i.e. body language and facial expressions, so you lose most of that and your voice and words become fundamental, therefore it is hard to communicate except for a very skilled verbal communicator, hence why telesales is such a difficult, stressful, and by extension skilled and well-remunerated, specialism.

    It's not an mbti related issue.
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    I hate having to answer the phone. It's always at the worst moments when the parental units or some other person decides to call me. I find them generally to be an annoyance unless I am maybe talking to one of my grandparents who lives on the other side of the country and I do not see them often. But they are not as bad as wrong number callers, for some reason I get a lot of them and I think my old number belonged to a dealer or something.

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    I hate the interruption of whatever it was I was doing more than anything. Once I'm talking it doesn't much bother me unless I get bored. Tone of voice is adequate for me in place of body language, probably because I mostly only talk to people I know pretty well, plus I'm kind of an auditory/verbal brained person.
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    I say just have an excuse on hand before you call them or they call you. lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pushbeat View Post
    I am an INTP, but just a little bit more on the I- than on the E-side. I can go out and have a very lively conversation for 3, 4 hours. People wouldn't think I'm an introvert. However 10 minutes on the phone just completely drains all energy out of me. With anyone. On any subject. I have a ENFJ-friend who can call for up to 45 minutes. Terrible, I communicated that a few times, but I guess that wouldn't stop an ENFJ.

    Why does it cost so more energy to call than to talk in real life? Is it the pauses, the lack of other input than voice, is this TiNe, or what?
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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    He is on average right. If you are purposefully not showing body language, then you may very well be making people uncomfortable...which may very well be your aim.
    My aim is to get people to focus on my words, which I have selected with great care to convey my meaning as precisely as possible. I don't know what signals my body language might be conveying, so yes, I do my best to suppress it in the interests of avoiding mixed signals. I will sometimes use vocal inflections and pacing, however, for specific purposes such as highlighting certain points, conveying humor, building (or dashing) expectations, etc., especially when speaking to groups. It is easy for me to maintain a relatively neutral speech pattern as well, though. I don't know if this makes others uncomfortable. The only direct feedback I have received is an occasional observation that my nonverbal cues are very hard to read.

    Quote Originally Posted by Il Morto Che Parla View Post
    Hogwash?

    Nonverbal communication represents two-thirds of all communication.[1] Nonverbal communication can portray a message both verbally and with the correct body signals. Body signals comprise physical features, conscious and unconscious gestures and signals, and the mediation of personal space.[1] The wrong message can be established if the body language conveyed does not match a verbal message. Nonverbal communication strengthens a first impression in common situations like attracting a partner or in a business interview: impressions are on average formed within the first four seconds of contact.[1] First encounters or interactions with another person strongly affect a person's perception.[2] When the other person or group is absorbing the message they are focused on the entire environment around them, meaning the other person uses all five senses in the interaction: 83% sight, 11% hearing, 3% smell, 2% touch and 1% taste.[3]

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nonverb...ion#Importance
    I have read several similar claims, and still disagree. Consider the following example conversations:

    1. My student and I discussing the experiment he conducted yesterday

    2. My SO and I considering vacation options for the upcoming summer

    3. A friend and I comparing notes on a movie we just saw

    I fail to see how in any of these conversations more information is conveyed nonverbally than verbally. Just how do I use body language to say, "You should repeat this measurement with the old sample," or "I'd like to go somewhere we can hike", or even "this remake is even better than the original". Perhaps I am unusual, but if you are speaking to me and not listening to my words, there is absolutely no way you are getting anywhere near two-thirds of my meaning. Moreover, the meaning you infer is probably wrong.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaguar View Post
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    Quote Originally Posted by Coriolis View Post
    My aim is to get people to focus on my words, which I have selected with great care to convey my meaning as precisely as possible. I don't know what signals my body language might be conveying, so yes, I do my best to suppress it in the interests of avoiding mixed signals. I will sometimes use vocal inflections and pacing, however, for specific purposes such as highlighting certain points, conveying humor, building (or dashing) expectations, etc., especially when speaking to groups. It is easy for me to maintain a relatively neutral speech pattern as well, though. I don't know if this makes others uncomfortable. The only direct feedback I have received is an occasional observation that my nonverbal cues are very hard to read.
    Geez what an obsessive-compulsive approach to life
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    I just prefer to text. When I was growing up, you couldn't get me off the phone, but the older I get the more reluctant I am to physically talk to people (I find it exhausting), when I can just text instead. I figured it was an introversion thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    Geez what an obsessive-compulsive approach to life
    That makes it sound very time-intensive and energy-consuming, when in fact it is almost second-nature. I find it also makes for more accurate and efficient transfer of information.
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