OK, here’s the scenario. I’ve been involved in a nonexclusive Friends with Benefits arrangement with my next door neighbor for about nine months and I’m sure we all know FWB is not generally a relationship prone to long-term sustainability. But we’re both older – past the childrearing/looking for commitment stage so it’s worked fairly well thus far. However, I’ve reached the point where I find myself more irritated than content. So I recognize the need for either renegotiation or a cessation of activity.
I (female) am an INTP. So far as I can tell, he is ENTJ. Which is to say that if I’m not paying sufficient attention I occasionally find myself standing at the edge of a cliff thinking “I don’t recall agreeing to do THIS.”
Anyway, dear ENTJs, should you feel yourselves capable of betraying one of your own, I need a break-up plan. One primary issue is that his tendency toward manipulation and the need to have things his way when he wants often equates in my mind to a lack of respect. And that’s where, as an INTP, I really have to put my foot down.
But I do want this to be as painless as possible. I really like him (and you can take this as a compliment for all the ENTJs on the forum) - he’s one of the few people who doesn’t just bore the hell out of me and he’s generally able to intuit what I’m saying (even if I don’t get a chance to finish the damned sentence). This is somewhat of a pre-emptive strike in that I don’t think he realizes how much of a problem I am beginning to have with this relationship.
So tell me, will coldly and logically presenting an argument while emphasizing that certain areas of discontent are due to my personal emotional issues (for which he is not responsible and which may be irrational but do still have merit in the larger context) satisfy an ENTJ as to the desirability of ending a relationship or will he respond with attempts at negotiation?
Or am I likely bringing the fires of Hell down on my head?