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    and I say "obviously" b/c I get compliments like everyday...well if I go outside.
    wait just looked up christy turlington- I'm prettier or just as pretty at that bitch.

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    Quote Originally Posted by moonnx View Post
    I know I'm not attractive to everyone-some people like different types-but thinking about that makes me feel more inferior. Like what's the point of thinking I'm pretty if there is someone else prettier? =/ Like I think I always think it's a joke when I get compliments. And Yes, I would say "okay" or "I know" or nothing at all.

    and Lady X- by saying "you look like a normal attractive person" just makes me feel bad about thinking I'm pretty at all- Like saying "you're really not THAT pretty so you need to stop rambling on about it and get a life". I just either feel like the prettiest or the ugliest. But since no one likes me anyway doesn't matter so...


    That's the point. No one is that pretty. If you have an all or nothing mentality work on changing that because you are the prettiest OR the ugliest. If the only way you can avoid feeling inferior is by feeling better than everyone else, that is going to be off putting to people.

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    Quote Originally Posted by moonnx View Post
    and I say "obviously" b/c I get compliments like everyday...well if I go outside.
    wait just looked up christy turlington- I'm prettier or just as pretty at that bitch.
    reeeeeeaaallllly? Every day?



    EDIT: you just added that bit about christy turlington. That attitude is what comes across as self centered and obnoxious. It's not going to attract people.

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    well i asked earlier what you're trying to get out of this thread...venting? advice? what?

    because like someone else said it does sound like complainabragging which is hella annoying

    my advice to you is to check your ego. realize that what you experience is not as bizarre as you think it is and what you need to do is learn how to handle it.

    and yes...stop going on about it...or ask some real questions.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pseudo View Post
    reeeeeeaaallllly? Every day?
    this girl is really full of herself, but i do think how often you get hit on really depends on where you're living. like in my neighborhood, pretty much if you're a female and not horribly disfigured, you're going to have some guy trying to talk to you if you're outside for a few minutes.

    it's definitely not something to define yourself by though, i assume most of the dudes that come up to me have probably tried the same thing on at least a few other girls that day. numbers game and all.

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    Well I it feels like it-At least it feels that way-I'm always on my guard-But since this sounds coneited- I get hit on just like any other girl because you know I'm not that great. There goes my self esteem/confidence. People are so annoying- omg you can;t say this can;t say that- well who cares what I say, right? They're just words.

    Lady X mentioned christy turlington- and honestly she isn't some goddess- she looks like the normally attractive people.

    And the thing is I don't know how to change this mentality. everyone's tired of it- But when I try to show confidence- it's always said to be coneited- that's why I feel bad saying thank you. This is why I keep telling people I'm a loser- I can't just be normal...If no one's that pretty don't compliment me-everyone is pretty somehow. But that statement just makes me feel worthless- nothing special. Why would anyone talk to me if I;m nothing special?

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    @chana- I'm not "full of myself"- just depressed and trying to make myself feel better. I'm weird and awkward (a loser) and no one else gets it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by moonnx View Post
    Well I it feels like it-At least it feels that way-I'm always on my guard-But since this sounds coneited- I get hit on just like any other girl because you know I'm not that great. There goes my self esteem/confidence. People are so annoying- omg you can;t say this can;t say that- well who cares what I say, right? They're just words.

    Lady X mentioned christy turlington- and honestly she isn't some goddess- she looks like the normally attractive people.

    And the thing is I don't know how to change this mentality. everyone's tired of it- But when I try to show confidence- it's always said to be coneited- that's why I feel bad saying thank you. This is why I keep telling people I'm a loser- I can't just be normal...If no one's that pretty don't compliment me-everyone is pretty somehow. But that statement just makes me feel worthless- nothing special. Why would anyone talk to me if I;m nothing special?


    No one said you weren't pretty. They are just trying to communicate that no one, not even you, is pretty enough to go on and on about it. There is a difference between confidence and arrogance. It's good to have positive self image. It's not so good to say things like "I'm prettier or just as pretty at that bitch". Being competitive and aggressive like that isn't attractive.



    Take the bolded and replace turlington with you. That's all people are getting at.

    If you think we're lowering your self confidence imagine what you do to others by going on and on about how attractive you are and how much attention you get. How lonely you feel for being both pretty and smart. Can you see how that would be a little annoying to other women/people?

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    Quote Originally Posted by moonnx View Post
    @chana- I'm not "full of myself"- just depressed and trying to make myself feel better. I'm weird and awkward (a loser) and no one else gets it.
    I get where you are coming from (A LOT of people on this forum feel this way). I think people are trying to give you advice and you are resisting. Choosing to retain your original idea regardless of our input.

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    Well you proved the point then didn't you.

    You don't personally think christy turlington is very pretty even tho she's been making a career off of her looks for more than 20 years.

    It's all relative... No one is ever the prettiest to any one person.

    And to have your self concept defined by that seems very non intp of you.

    You say thank you not because you believe it but because it was nice of them to say so.

    You need to learn how to harness your own power and stop giving it to everyone else.

    Feel good about the things you value about yourself. That's not something anyone else can give or take away from you.
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