I’m going to say the same thing about state that I said about Kalach: it’s my experience that Ni doms with advanced degrees in philosophy just sound cryptic. When you’re in an environment where articulating abstract concepts takes on the edge of being a competitive sport, it’s just what happens. I don’t know, I was taken aback just now in reading the presumption that it could be a “dominating tactic”- just because I’ve been friends with state for a couple years now and I don’t see it (and I do find male entitlement repulsive, on top of being a total J- so if I’d noticed anything like that before in him I’d remember). Cryptic, yes. Possibly even a bit hot-headed. But I don’t think some of the insinuations being made are fair.
Something to keep in mind is that Js (especially IJs) aren’t just reacting to what’s being said in the immediate moment, we tend to react to our entire experience of a person. I guess I can see how this looks like “prejudice” (especially if past experience of a person fades almost immediately for you- then you wouldn’t understand what it’s like to have that linger and color your present experience), but the term “prejudice” infers there’s something decidedly inaccurate and/or irrational about it. And Pe’ers can tend to get dismissive about it- as if any opinion/judgment that’s based on something that isn’t *right there* in front of them is necessarily inaccurate and irrational. I’m sure it looks like what we’re reacting to “comes from nowhere”- just like the details that seem like a priority to Ti’ers come “from nowhere” and could hardly be less of a priority to Te’ers- but isn’t it annoying when Te’ers write off everything they don’t immediately understand as “stupid” or “idiotic”?
Pe doms in particular can even get bullying about it, but anyway. I’m pretty sure the “always play the villain” is more about cumulative experience of salome than anything she specifically said in her first response to him in this thread- if it were the first time he’d read anything by her, he almost certainly wouldn’t have reacted like that. It’s totally available to think we’re annoying as hell (and to go on and on and on about how completely annoying we are)- but we’re Js and comments like that get filed and accumulate. [eta: it's worth mentioning that I do think it's unfortunate salome seems to hate us with the fire of a thousand burning suns, but I'm sure she has her reasons, and my only point here is that she mentions it *a lot* and stuff like that accumulates.] I’m pretty sure there are a couple NFJs here who had a bad reaction to me at some point and still see me in a negative light as a result of past interaction with me….it just happens. It’s not “prejudice”, we just remember stuff and it colors what we see in the present moment, often times without us even realizing that particular ‘color’ may not be there in that isolated given moment.
And in regard to the op- I usually like INTPs. There are two I have irl (a good friend, and my dad) and I really appreciate their calm demeanor. We tend to get wound up about the same things, only they don’t *really* get wound up- they can make jokes about it and it really helps me to take things less seriously. <-I can’t emphasize the importance of that enough, or how incredibly much I appreciate it. And in the forum here I find that INTPs (and ENTPs as well) have a knack for articulating points succinctly and immediately that it would take me days (and pages) to make myself, so that’s a real plus too.