INFPs aren't control in the sense of telling people what to do, but sometimes their moods seem to control situations. You have to appease them to move the situation forward.
I agree with this as my INFP mom will never let people do something that violates one of her deeply held and sometimes secretive Fi values and will become very domineering when those sensitve lines are corssed.
INTPs can be very controlling, whether masking as intellectual discourse or through withdrawal.
That's interesting. I always seem my withdrawls as giving in. Sort of just throwing my hands up.
I get how an INTP could seem controlling in conversation beacause with think that there is a a correct way to see things. Everything has to makes sense. I could see us giving off the impression that people aren't allowed to think illogically. I use the general "you" as in "You can't think that if", "You can't believe that if" ect. It drives my ESFJ friend crazy because she always interprets it as meaning her specifically.
I've never tried to get close to another INTP male...I wouldn't even know how and I am one!
ESTJ men are tricky. They're really fun and can really take control of situations (allowing me to be a procrastinating disorganized P ). But that can also be very stubborn and very, very set in their ways. I get along really well with both ESxJs. I think the two types enjoy the novelty of the other one and they compliment each others skills and weaknesses. I think ESFJ is better though because their Fe makes up for the INTPs lack of social IQ, whereas the ESTJ's Te will just try to hammer whatever their opinion is into the INTPs brain.