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    Default INTP + INTJ relationships, do they work?

    Well? Is this match up likely to work? I've heard that it doesn't, but I think it stems a lot from the immaturity of people who analyze the issue and love to make dualistic opposites between INTP's and INTJ's. I think the two are far more similar than many others. Add to that I probably flip between the two in my own personality. I'm a predominantly INTP guy talking to an INTJ girl. We get along magically, and I've never ever connected with someone on that level. We think alike, share the same beliefs, values, interests, sense of humor, etc. etc. One of the few people in this world I've ever felt free to open up to on just about anything and everything.

    What do you think about the INTP/INTJ dynamic?

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    Though you'll often be on the same page, you'll want to be moving onto the Glossary while she wants to go back to Contents.
    Why do we always come here?

    I guess we'll never know.

    It's like a kind of torture,
    To have to watch this show.

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    Mort, are you talking about communication or sexual relations?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Risen View Post
    What do you think about the INTP/INTJ dynamic?
    . . . It's close to being the best possible situation.

    So, go for it!


    And take her to Shakespeare and Company. Once there, treat her to a Guinness and a basket of fish and chips. You'll thank me later.
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    Sounds like a good match...you have lots in common, but you also complement each other.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Risen View Post
    Well? Is this match up likely to work? I've heard that it doesn't, but I think it stems a lot from the immaturity of people who analyze the issue and love to make dualistic opposites between INTP's and INTJ's. I think the two are far more similar than many others. Add to that I probably flip between the two in my own personality. I'm a predominantly INTP guy talking to an INTJ girl. We get along magically, and I've never ever connected with someone on that level. We think alike, share the same beliefs, values, interests, sense of humor, etc. etc. One of the few people in this world I've ever felt free to open up to on just about anything and everything.

    What do you think about the INTP/INTJ dynamic?
    If the physical chemistry is there, it sounds like a great match. I lean toward thinking like matches are preferred over opposite matches, but both have their benefits. Make a conscious effort not to let her shoulder more than her fair share of the mundane responsibilities and I don't think you'll have too many problems.
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    I'm an INTP female married to an INTJ male. There are a few constant points of conflict but on the whole it's a complementary match.

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    We're nerdy enough to scare the parents, yet we communicate well, trust one-another, are comfortable, and don't need to be mushy in some foreign way to make the other happy.

    We can also sit next to each-other on our laptops and it doesn't bother either of us one bit (like we are right now).

    Pretty good, if you ask me.
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    Disclaimer: The above is my opinion and mine alone, it does not mean I cannot change my mind, nor does it guarantee that my comments are related to any deep-seated convictions. Take everything I say with a whole snowplow worth of salt and call me in the morning, if you can.

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    I am INTJ. Have dated 3 INTP men in the last 5 months. It was always wonderful at the start, but then I realise they just don't understand certain aspects of a relationship, like how to get past limerence and how to pair-bond. Which has been a horrible experience. I feel they live somewhere in outer space. I think they mean well, but are just not grounded enough for me. I can be friends with INTPs, but a relationship? No. And the higher the numbers, the more air-headed and emotionally vacant they seem to me.

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    Explain what you mean by "pair bonding."



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