I wonder how the female INTPs do with male INFJs. Or if lesbian/bisexual XNFJs like INTP women. I have noticed that men tend to prefer women with a feeling preference whether they have one or not.
I had an infj once. He annoyed me with passive aggressiveness and a holiness complex. Irreverence doesn't wash well with them.
I most often end up with intjs. Do they have higher tolerance for female Ts on average? Dunno. But invariably they, too, throw up their hands and wail, "God you're a machine. make it stop!" I've yet to meet one that wasn't, imo, too humorless for his/her own good. Surprising, given how haphazardly they use the rational process. If you're going to be irrational, go all out or go home. At least there's something freeing and entertaining in that.
I've had the most fun with not too feely infps. And that's worth a lot. Perhaps an intp would be a good balance.
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