Because I have always had chemistry with the ENFJs in my life; because @ceecee's relationship with her husband sounds like a target to strive for . . .
I think it's also gendered thing. Male FPs need to be mature enough to crystallize their emotions and their strengths into the same identity at the same time, otherwise either I'm holding back or they're putting on a show of how they think masculinity should be performed. It's a turn-off when they're not fusing emotions and strength, it means they're not owning themselves wholeheartedly. A lot of them transform their empathy into passivity and enact their masculinity by flipping character into some dominant but numb guy. NFJs, OTOH, have less to risk than NFPs because the distance between stereotyped masculinity and the Fe brand of emotion is generally smaller.
While I've met physically and emotionally attractive TPs, I've never felt much sexual draw to them. I've never felt pulled to fuse to their soul in the way that I have for FPs and NJs.
I'm also attracted to TJs but there's less of a pattern there.
*You don't have a soul. You are a Soul. You have a body.
*Faith is the art of holding on to things your reason once accepted, despite your changing moods.