I am also married to an INTP and so far your post (referring to Cafe's) has been the most positive and reassuring one I have read. Thank you! I will probably refer back to this many times.
As an F, I have found it extremely difficult to connect with my spouse on any kind of intimate level (not meaning sex per se) but just that F bonding. While we love each other and have a mutual intrigue with each other, we just don't seem to really "get" each other. Just curious as to how you've learned to overcome that, if you would feel free to share that info.
Otherwise, thanks again and it was good to see insight into the intp/ixfp relationship. I am an isfp but your comments also fit my experience as well.