I have been dating my INTP for a year and a half. I am in love with him and have been for quite some time. We had never really told each other "I love you." A few weeks ago before going to sleep, I asked him if he knew I loved him. He said he did but said he doesnt say it any more because every time he has in a relationship he has gotten hurt. Now he says he just says "This is it." I completely understand his hesitation. He is a man of his word and he does all sorts of things for me that indicate he cares. (I dont think he would stick around other wise.) But sometimes it would be nice to hear how he feels. There is never any mention of his feelings or emotions.
Anyways... Im not looking to push him into saying it. Im just curious if anyone has any suggestions on showing him he can trust me and I have no intentions of ever hurting him. Also I know this is asked a million times over, but are there any little things I can watch for that will give me some insight into how he feels? I do mention to him that I love him, but he never says anything. (I will admit it kind of stings. But I am in this for the long haul.) I also dont want to over do it either by saying it to much and making it sound hollow. Sorry for rambling...Thanks for reading.