How old are you? I ask because that's very common among young INTs.
Fwiw, here's my suggested guide:
First, abandon all hope.
Only then you'll be able not to get attached to these outcomes, and finally get comfortable with being yourself.
From that point, things are gonna be much simpler. You'll realize that you can't and shouldn't try to control how other people are gonna react, and that a fair dose of uncertainty is the element that makes life an interesting experience.