Once I'm in a relationship though, I'm loyal, willing to work on it, and talk issues over instead of just seething. Which takes conscious effort, because baring my soul and intimacy don't come that naturally to me, but it can be done. I'm more sensitive than people tend to think - a flippant remark that hits home will stay with me for years, which is why I'm slow to open my heart to people.
But I'd rather be the one hurting than the one causing the hurt. If I like someone enough to go out with them, then I care about them and want them to be happy, and that goes on after we've split. I don't do jealousy, or clinginess, or over-analysing things, as I tend to take people at face value in that kind of close relationship. I don't tell people I love them unless I'm sure that I do, because I think that's a horrible thing to have to take back.
I don't care about hearts and flowers and birthdays - they're nice, but they're basically windowdressing for the actually important things.
I am what I am; I want to be with someone who'll like what that is, and if I don't find one, I'm my own person. It hurts like hell at the time. I've never split with someone without crying, even though I absolutely know it's the right decision at the time. I don't want to make people unhappy, and I want to be decent to them.