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    Default Birthdays are irrational.

    I've come to the conclusion that the price we all pay to feel more special once a year is very high.

    Reasons:

    -It's a lose-lose situation. The other person would usually know how to spend the money you spent on the gift for him much better than you, and vice-versa when your birthday arrives.

    -Imbalances are frequent. Sometimes you give someone a $80 gift on his/her birthday but the person gives you a $20 one. Btw, this doesn't mean it won't remain a lose-lose situation, since his/her reputation in the group will likely be affected.

    -We spend a lot of time wondering about what we should buy, with traffic, waiting for our turn to pay, etc. We could use this time to do a lot of important things.

    -As soon as you forget that a given day is someone's birthday, they start thinking you don't care about them as much as they care about you.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Rasofy View Post
    I've come to the conclusion that the price we all pay to feel more special once a year is very high.

    Reasons:

    -It's a lose-lose situation. The other person would usually know how to spend the money you spent on the gift for him much better than you, and vice-versa when your birthday arrives.

    -Imbalances are frequent. Sometimes you give someone a $80 gift on his/her birthday but the person gives you a $20 one. Btw, this doesn't mean it won't remain a lose-lose situation, since his/her reputation in the group will likely be affected.

    -We spend a lot of time wondering about what we should buy, with traffic, waiting for our turn to pay, etc. We could use this time to do a lot of important things.

    -As soon as you forget that a given day is someone's birthday, they start thinking you don't care about them as much as they care about you.


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    Yes, I completely agree.

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    I dislike celebrating birthdays, and holidays in general, while I do hold that traditions are good for the soul, and grounding.

    They are prone to materialism and self-centeredness.

    I prefer, and enjoy, to celebrate seasonal celebrations or yearly traditions, like camping on certain days every year, picking berries as a family when they are ripe (at the same time every year), going to lakes, gathering for feasts, etc. I guess when it's about God, or the turnings of the earth cycles, I really dig celebrations. Not so much when it's about individuals or man-made events. Administrative Professionals Day? gimme a break.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rasofy View Post
    I've come to the conclusion that the price we all pay to feel more special once a year is very high.

    Reasons:

    -It's a lose-lose situation. The other person would usually know how to spend the money you spent on the gift for him much better than you, and vice-versa when your birthday arrives.

    -Imbalances are frequent. Sometimes you give someone a $80 gift on his/her birthday but the person gives you a $20 one. Btw, this doesn't mean it won't remain a lose-lose situation, since his/her reputation in the group will likely be affected.

    -We spend a lot of time wondering about what we should buy, with traffic, waiting for our turn to pay, etc. We could use this time to do a lot of important things.

    -As soon as you forget that a given day is someone's birthday, they start thinking you don't care about them as much as they care about you.


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    I think that if you think that birthdays are irrational, then you should give me all your presents and birthday money next year so I can enjoy it instead.

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    that's why i have no expectations around my birthday. I like buying people presents its a favorite past time of mine I'll see something and Go OOOOH SO AND SO NEEDS THIS buy it and give it to them closest birthday or holiday. but I don't expect people to buy me things for my birthday.
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    that's why i have no expectations around my birthday. I like buying people presents its a favorite past time of mine I'll see something and Go OOOOH SO AND SO NEEDS THIS buy it and give it to them closest birthday or holiday. but I don't expect people to buy me things for my birthday.
    I damn sure expect people to buy me things for my b-day. Otherwise I'll call them a cheap bastard.

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    Is it your birthday, Ras?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaguar View Post
    Is it your birthday, Ras?
    No, my birthday was last month.
    Since I've already received my gifts, it's a good time to change everything.
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    The observances that are truly irrational are all those "Hallmark holidays", occasions promoted by greeting card and gift companies to drum up business. These include everything from Valentine's Day and Mother's Day to St Patricks Day, Secretaries Day, Bosses Day, and on and on.

    Actually, I think one's personal birthday is the better time to honor someone, whether for being a mother, grandparent, a good secretary, whatever. I often take my birthday off from work, and spend the day doing whatever I want. For relationships, forget Valentine's Day and choose a day all your own, like your anniversary.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rasofy View Post
    No, my birthday was last month.
    Since I've already received my gifts, it's a good time to change everything.
    Well, if birthdays gifts are irrational, then so are Christmas gifts. What do you have to say about that?

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