[INTP] INTP and Falling in love

[stormyapril]

This is not a romantic "does he love me post"

Q:

INTP - How do you process the feeling of being on love?

My theory: Love is inherently something that feels "out of control", based on that it acts on the dopamine receptors and makes us feel drugged. I feel "stupid" and expect that it feels the same for INTP. I don't always like this state. Assuming the reaction is even stronger for such a rational group.

If true, is it an emotional state that you enjoy?
How did you get past/deal with this?
Do you tend to "run" when it happens mistaking the feeling for something bad/wrong?


I know many and love (platonic and romantic) most INTP I meet, but notice most struggle with being "in love".

Like to understand why this is so hard!

 

[ExAstrisSpes]

This is not a romantic "does he love me post"

Thank goodness! Because if that was the case the "correct" answer (at least for my current state of mind) is run away! Run away!

 

[Red Herring]

Depends. I do love the "drugged feeling" as such. BUT...
If I have the impression that the feeling is reciprocated and the outlook is positive I enjoy the ride! (and try very, very hard not to worry and doubt too much)
If I have the impression that the feeling might not be reciprocated or that the outlook might be negative for whatever reason it is scary and I feel horribly out of control.

Being out of control and depending on the - irrational and sometimes hard to predict! - emotions of another person is tough for the INTP (and probably most e5s).

Also, please remember that many INTps with their inferior Fe have a very raw, roughcut, unpolished, often childlike approach to these kind of emotions. Those I have met IRL don't fall easily but when they fall they fall hard and that often leadsto a sense of helplessness.

 

[Such Irony]

Depends. I do love the "drugged feeling" as such. BUT...
If I have the impression that the feeling is reciprocated and the outlook is positive I enjoy the ride! (and try very, very hard not to worry and doubt too much)
If I have the impression that the feeling might not be reciprocated or that the outlook might be negative for whatever reason it is scary and I feel horribly out of control.

Being out of control and depending on the - irrational and sometimes hard to predict! - emotions of another person is tough for the INTP (and probably most e5s).

Also, please remember that many INTps with their inferior Fe have a very raw, roughcut, unpolished, often childlike approach to these kind of emotions. Those I have met IRL don't fall easily but when they fall they fall hard and that often leadsto a sense of helplessness.

This exactly.

 

[Spartacuss]

If I have the impression that the feeling is reciprocated and the outlook is positive I enjoy the ride! (and try very, very hard not to worry and doubt too much)
If I have the impression that the feeling might not be reciprocated or that the outlook might be negative for whatever reason it is scary and I feel horribly out of control. it gets squashed, with time very effectively so.

edited for personalization

 

[RaptorWizard]

Falling in love with the universe? Yes! Falling in love with people? No!