I was just wondering if there was any closing thought on this situation.
I got a negative response to my email, I was what I was expecting it to be a no thanks wrapped in white lie's and it was.
In short this what happened
I thought at first he was just being friendly and ignored it, I’m very wary of Ne flirting, I realised I really liked him. He was without doubt interesting in me for at last 4 months. Iv known him for 7 months now
Got stuck in my head and thought about it, had double check he really did like me and studied his behaviour until it was perfectly clear what his intentions were.
Grew to like him more, gave no signals then plucked up the courage one night, before I could say anything his ex burst back on the scene, that very night:horor:
All my friends told me he was getting back with her, I hung back waiting for it to happen.
He carried on flirting with me, I ignored it. His ex got her foot in more and more and was just always there (dam Facebook, she added me)
I got really stifled and uncomfortable with situation and hardly spoke to him
He drifted back toward the ex, and gave up me. In the last month and a bit, his behaviour toward me changed sharply
I got concerned for the state of friendship and confessed to him and explained my position. with his ex and every ting that people had told me.
He said no thanks to my interest in, claimed he never meant to lead me on (obviously you would lie in this situation) said he had come to see me as a friend and surprising that nothing would ever between us
How would you take this never?
I don’t want close my options to him. At this time he has unfinished business with his ex. The social situation at the moment is as such that even if he had still reciprocated my interest, I would have said not now, lets wait hang out more and see what happens because things are so tricky socially.
But there was a definite spark that’s hard to find, and I know the more we get to know each other the more build a good solid friendship is this not the ideal platform for a spark to grow from?
Right now he either needs to get back with his ex, sort out the un-finished business or make sure she gets the message and leaves him alone.
Should I take at that I’m forever in the friend zone or just that the situation right now makes us exploring more than being friends socially difficult and fussy. Also I would completely understand that he would be consumed with sorting out his ex situation.
I need a conclusion on this I’m a J type.
Do I do a NEVR on him back and draw a line and risk a lost opportunity later down the line?
Do I save him from the friend zone so that if the situation changes the opportunity isn’t lost, and till linger with my feelings a little getting stung as get to know him more and potentially see get back with awful ex.
Or is and ENTP friend zoning me likely to be a very rigid forever decision?
Anyone up for murdering the ex? I’ll give you a cookie for it.
Anyone want to sweep me off my feet so I forget all about him?