So here's a thing for you about Ex's
A few months back I met an ENTP and we hit it off right away, like never be for! After a couple of month's he started to change and got really flirty with me.
I'm bad at picking up signals but I would say he's interested. He teases me, plays with me,touches me, facebooks me regularly told a mutual fried he 'really likes me' and cheers me up at any hint of a frown, he takes time to spend 1 on 1 time with me (a couple of times has got me sneak off with him) most of his friends have asked me out so I guess he'd find me attractive
Ok so Iv done nothing about this other than reciprocate his friendliness and be myself. I take time to get to know someone regardless of if I'm interested in them or not. Also I fear doing the wrong thing and miss reading signals.
THE THING IS.
He's not long out of a long term relationship him and his ex share a lot of close mutual Friends.
After 6-7 months of no sign of her she's now back on the scene out with us (big group of friends) all the time.
She's gorgeous, charming, slightly obsessed and wants him back big time! At first he was very cold toward her but he seems to be warming a little, but is that the start of them rekindling the romance? or is he just being kind and likes to see her?
His interest in me seemed unaffected but it put me right off. More so all our Friends seem to think they are an amazing couple and have broken up be for and got back together a few times. like its written in the stars.
Though I would say the relationship sounds very cooked to me like it has nowhere to go, a futile kind of love.
He himself does not view the relationship through rose tinted spectacles, Iv picked up on a few comments he's made.
since she's turned up I felt really intimated and she's clung onto me which is frightening. I know he's interest in me is not to make her jealous because most of our close friendship has been 1 on 1 behind closed doors.
He is at a very important stage of his life she left him at a very bad time and he must have been very hurt. He's doing amazingly well having beaten an illness.
He's exploring his freedom and health,doing lots with his business and genuinely enjoying life and his many interests. I don't think he's ready for anything big right now but none the less we have met and there is chemistry.
I want something small to start slowly but maybe he thinks I'm like most other girls who just want it all right now.
I don't want him to feel like anything between us would get in the way of what he needs right now. Its so great to see him doing well.
However I feel stilted by the situation I don't want to put pressure on him but I also need to see him more and have more attention from him to allow me to feel comfortable enough to reciprocate more and to get over the presence of his ex. I see him maybe once a month in a group
I need to know for sure wat he thinks of me, if Im wrong I'll just move on and distance myself
I fear i may lose a great guy, as at the moment he's not getting much off me in terms of romantic signals (Im rubbish at this at the best of times).
I guess he still loves her or at least holds a great deal of affection, this is normal and Im fine with that it fades with time. Also I guess he's misses her, i miss my ex he was best friend.
So if you could help me for the sake answering my questions and for the general ENTP discussion on it that would be really great because Im stuck on this.
So your thoughts please
Great ENTP idea on what to do. So many problems! If there was no Ex and he could drink we would have done it by now!
The draw of an ex long to term lover you miss V's the potential of new one your just getting to know that is very different to the ex.
Do you go back and why? when would you call over?
Does he seem interested to you?
How do I show an interest?
If he loses interest in me due to lack of signals, is it possible to get it back?
thank you your great X
Im new here so I hope to stick around.
P.S I know Im just getting a few ideas off people, Im just so stuck on this one thats all helps the heaps of anlysis going on at the mo.
Thank you, thank you . . Much sorry its a long post.