"How dreadful!" cried Lord Henry. "I can stand brute force, but brute reason is quite unbearable. There is something unfair about its use. It is hitting below the intellect." ~ Oscar Wilde - The picture of Dorian Gray
I am an INTJ and I am pretty kinky. My wife is an INTJ and to say that she has vanilla sexual tastes might be generous..........
So, I don't know what conclusion can be drawn from that. In our case, both nature & nurture have played huge roles in making her so "plain-jane" about sex.......nothing in my upbringing made me more predisposed to being kinky, but I think it was always inside me and it was really brought out by a chance relationship I had with a VERY kinky woman while separated from my first wife..........and now I can't put the Genie back in the bottle!
Needless to say, this has not improved my sex life with my second wife.........
In general, I think any good sexual relationship I've had has had a good mix of both. I find it highly unlikely that any INTJ would be unwilling to change in this department because they think they know best (or any department for that matter). For me personally, most of the females I've slept with are into the dominant/submissive thing, which really requires a healthy mixture of kinky and normal.
"You will always be fond of me. I represent to you all the sins you never had the courage to commit."
Reason is, and ought only to be the slave of the passions, and can never pretend to any other office
than to serve and obey them. - David Hume