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    Quote Originally Posted by Istbkleta View Post
    I used to "close the bread" (3d Fe).

    After several cases where people left the bread intentionally open, I realized it's counterproductive and stopped. Unless I had good reason to believe they would want me to close it, they would notice and they would "appreciate it".

    This has been my experience with this moral dillema so far. Please share yours - I am curious.

    EDIT: "bread" here is a metaphor.
    lol

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    I don't bout my dreams, I don't bout my dreaming anymore, all that I know is I'm falling, falling, falling, falling, might as well fall. I don't know about my love, I don't know bout my loving anymore, all that I know is I'm turning, turning, turning, turning, might as well turn.
    Escape powerful genjitsu by averting your gaze from the eyes.

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    Reaching for the fresh bread underneath the stale: okay
    Deliberately leaving the bread open: not okay
    Having a four page thread about this: not sure
    Everybody have fun tonight. Everybody Wang Chung tonight.

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    This is a life altering topic FM.

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    I, honestly, think you made the right decision here.

    You left it like you found it, which is RULE NUMERO UNO of sneaking roommates' foods.

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    close the bread. it's the right thing to do
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    Alright, I have another moral issue.

    For some reason this just popped into my mind, and I don't know what to do with it.


    When I was seventeen I caught the eye of a man 25 years old. We went on a couple of dates but it seemed things just felt off. I was a punk rock party girl, and he was successful, and well....preppy. He said I reminded him of Alicia Silverstone in Clueless, and I just couldn't get around the fact that he probably had a very skewed perception of me.

    Instead I went for a horrible man my own age, who ended up being a complete psychopath, I wont go into details but for a while, I wasn't really in my right mind. Anyway, so this guy, who I kept on as a friend, though I was aware of his attraction to me, decided he wanted to lend me some money to help me out. I was very reluctant about taking the money, but he insisted, he wanted to do something for me, it was disposable income to him, and I should be comfortable taking whatever I needed. It was from his whatever account. Not a big deal.

    He gave me his ATM card, and pin number, and then I wasn't going to see him again for a while. Well, like I said I wasn't in my right mind. I went into the account and saw the balance and my jaw dropped. At the same time creepy guy I was with was asking me to borrow money, I kept withdrawing, and even though creepy guy paid me back the money never went back into the bank....I acted like a completely immature seventeen year old, and took twice as much as I had needed.

    When I had to break it to the man what happened, I first lied because I was so ashamed and dissapointed in myself, and he became really angry. Cold. Said, "You know they have cameras at ATMs, you're going to work off every last penny." Something like that. I remember being really creeped out by his words feeling like, what kind of man gives an ATM card to a 17 year old party girl, then says she will work it off. And I became angry with HIM.

    That was a really bad time though and we kept speaking for a while. Idk, I felt like he tried to buy me. Idk. Anyway one of the last times we spoke, I was wanting to actually spend time with him, and was headed down to see him, half way there, my ex boyfriend the creep called me, and I went to see him instead.

    Well, today I remembered this out of the blue. Despite what my feelings were when I was seventeen, I never did get a chance to pay the money back. Suddenly today the man's name popped in my head out of nowhere, and I absolutely hate this memory.

    Should I try to find him, and pay the money back, or if not, how do I feel better about this?

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    If you have the money, square it up with him. Move on.

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    Probably the hard part would be finding him. If I did send the money, I would prefer to send it anonymously. I mean doesn't it look just as weird to pay back a debt 13 years after the fact to someone you haven't spoken to in exactly that long? I do have the money, I would like to pay it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ThatGirl View Post
    Probably the hard part would be finding him. If I did send the money, I would prefer to send it anonymously. I mean doesn't it look just as weird to pay back a debt 13 years after the fact to someone you haven't spoken to in exactly that long? I do have the money, I would like to pay it.
    Where there's a will, there's a way.
    I'd sign my name. It's the only way I would be clear. But that's me.
    The choice is yours.

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