OK i could do some INTJ points of view here!
Basically, I am a lesbian ISTP. I have been friends with the INTJ girl in question for 4 years. We have always been attracted to each other but haven't acted on it (well maybe a little) but mostly we haven't because one or other of us has been with someone else.
Mostly we haven't spent that much time alone together (because i don't trust myself) until lately, we have spent time alone. I feel a lot of emotions for her which is scary because i normally dont feel emotions.
She says she wants to be with me. I'm all she thinks about. She wants to leave her girlfriend for me.
Now i am finding this difficult as first and foremost she is my friend. And i think maybe i love her because she is my friend and i just fancy her too.
And i also think we must be the two most incompatible personality types ever. She is an intellectual who reads big newspapers and cooks crab risotto and appreciates a nice wine. Her girlfriend is very similar to her. Me on the other hand- I sometimes look at naked women in lowgrade newspapers, drink vodka and am obsessed with sex.
I think she just wants me because i'm a bit of rough. She's intrigued. She says its more than that. But i dont want to break up her relationship and potentially ruin our friendship if its just going to be a mess if we get together.
Any of you INTJs got experience with ISTPs? Did you hate us? What did you like/hate about us? Could it ever work?
Any advice much appreciated!