So I'm married and my husband and his family had a falling out June 15th. Basically his dad went nutzo on him and started saying WHACKY stuff like how he ruined his mothers life by joining the military, marrying me, and knocking me up before marriage. And then wanted him to seek forgiveness from his mother like she was Jesus Christ in the walking flesh. This was all because my husband asked his dad if his mom would slow down on buying second hand baby stuff.
So anyways I basically ended up sending his dad an email saying until he learns to reasonably talk to his son I don't want to be around him or his family. And I especially don't want my kid around someone who FLIPS a shit on people randomly. But I was willing to see them and talk to them again regularly if they made amends with my husband. So my husband sent him an email saying what his expectations were for the relationship between them, and how he thinks they could make it better, etc. AND WE NEVER GOT A REPLY.
So today he checks his mail box (yes like snail mail) for the first time in like two months (I sent him a package on monday). AND HE SEES HIS MOM SENT HIM A LETTER ON THE 22nd of JUNE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She was actually normal and apologized and explained she didn't expect him to understand why his dad went off because she had never explained to my husband why she was mad and that she doesn't need him or expect him to come to her for forgiveness regarding his choice to have sex before marriage etc.
And then hes like "well I will write her a letter after class" and I was like why? shes already waited 2 months for your reply, you wanna make her wait another week to get a letter?! Just make a 10 min phone call and explain to her that you just checked your mail and you're really sorry you didn't get back to her sooner and you're happy that the air has been cleared between ya'll!
It was like pulling teeth from a mule to get him to make that friggen phone call... and I was just wondering is this NORMAL? To be so absent minded and then want to prolong the situation even longer?! I explained to him that making the phone call would appear more genuine and urgent than writing a letter. and it wasn't fair to make her wait longer for the baby shower invite.
So he listened to me and actually did it, and was a lot happier that he talked to his mom.