I met online a guy I don't know much but who is intriguing me. Would you let yourself intrigued and help me to analyse him without he ever notices it?
I try with him to shift away from my usual habits to share with guys I like, my interest in psychology and to psycho-analysis them while asking them very direct questions about who they are. I want to stop doing this with him because :
1. Once I get them, they are no longer interesting to me. And I think "next... " So i want to keep the intriguing part of this guy real.
2. because it fakes the relationship from the start. Too much open-up, too close from the start and no mystery.
(well, ok 1 and 2 are similar points....)
3. Because with the few things I know about this guy, i start to like him, a little ...
So, back to this guy, I've never met him in real but it's coming, im working on it.
The purpose of this email is let's find his type together, ok?
The first time we've emailed each other, he immedialty mailed me back an interesting and lively resumee of his life. I was surprised... he seemed not to be willing to hide anything about his life, not even that he had been engaged and didn't marry that girl in the end (i didn't ask for more details so far...).
This guy is surely N because his strive for intellectual stimulation is so obvious : he is a lawyer, PhD in laws (did it while he was working), and now, does a other laws specialisations...
He seems to not really like th messenger/chatting thing, which is cool, since i prefer to meet in people in real. So we didn't talked that much.
he's been really wierd at first. He told me he was happy to talk to me online or so but never did any effort to start the conversation himself. So i started 3 conversations like this. After a while, he offered me to meet up on a very wierd way : he offered to meet in a city which was very near to his and far from mine. And also to meet up soon without setting any dates and saying : well Im busy so we'll see later for the date. I thought he was kinda playing me and i've started ignoring him during 2 weeks. I thought he wasn't worth of my efforts. I could imagine from his description and pictures that he is the type of guy who has a few girls around him. I didn't want to be one more.
After 2 weeks, he suddenly started talking to me (as if the fact I ignored him would raise his interest) and offered the next day out of the blue to meet up again in a few weeks since he shared with me online his schedule and seems to be really busy. It also seems that the meeting up thing stresses him. (and beside we don't live in the same city, not even in the same coutrny so it's quite complicated, we have to see each other on a week-end).
His way to get to know me is fun : he wants to visit some new place with me. Exactly the type of activity i just LOVE! Sight-seeing!!! So it seems that his way to connect to me is sharing interests. He doesn't try to ask me a lot fo questions about me. He doesn't try to psycho-analyse me. He just talks about his life and i share mine. He just tries to know a lot what I like to do : sports, dance, travel and so on. Just the same way to connect than a former INTP boyfriend who acted the same way at first. I like it.
I thought he could be well an INTP (he seems to be a little random). He seems to have friends but doesn't seem to take a lot of time to socialise. But the thing that i find the most off putting in him and the less INTP is that he uses a LOT of emosticon while on IM, even though he is in his middle 30ies (which looks so immature). A lot of smiley smiling and winks. That seems to be so F and a lot of sweets sentences (that i rather find touchy-feely). Im not sure if this is just because he has been influenced by some SF/NF there.
That's it for the first part of the adventure. What do you think of it so far, Thee Oooo MBTI experts???
What should I observe next?