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    I find my close INTP friends aren't afraid to relax and act weird around me.
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    Female INTP here.

    How does one know if he/she is considered to be a close friend of an INTP?
    Well, I don’t have that many close friends in the first place. I can’t speak for all INTPs, but I would assume most INTPs are the same way as well.

    The one unmistakable way to know if you're considered to be a close friend of an INTP... is to take note of how much time the INTP is willing to spend with you. Other than that, I'm not sure if there's a recurring pattern among INTPs. Seriously though, most INTPs are too lazy to make time for people they don't like/care about.

    How does one know if he/she is in the INTP's inner circle?
    If the INTP approaches you often/willingly spends much of his/her free time with you... that's definitely a good sign. Other than that, it will probably vary a lot between individuals. I personally like writing to my closest friends (NOT instant messaging - email, handwritten letters etc.).

    What do INTPs do/say for/to their close friends that they wouldn't do/say for acquaintances?
    I can say/write very sweet things to friends whom I treasure. For the most part, I don't say things I don't mean - especially if I consider the other person a close friend. (So for example if I tell someone "You're a great friend," then that means I DO BELIEVE that person is a great friend.) I never lie to my closest friends. However, I feel little to zero remorse for lying to acquaintances (so as to avoid their company etc.). Also, I would NEVER hug people I don't feel emotionally close to.

    I am an ENFP and I find it rather easy to befriend all types-- although obviously there are always exceptions. At times, I may take for granted my ability to really get to know someone well (ie. a friend sharing intimate details) and it doesn't always register at the time what a big deal it was for them to do so. I don't want to make the mistake of doing this again.
    Can’t speak for all INTPs, but with me, you won’t have to worry about this; I seldom share intimate details with people, even with my closest friends. There is only ONE person (my best friend, an INTJ FYI) I share my deepest thoughts with, and that's it. The stuff that really matter to me, unless I share them with my INTJ friend *and that friend only*, I WILL take with me to my grave. I feel no mindless compulsion to reveal intimate details about myself - I will never fully understand people (especially girls/women) who do this. I don't wish to be understood by anyone but those I care about the most. That's one or two people maximum.

    What traits do INTPs look for close friends?
    Level-headedness. Common interests. Trustability. Open-mindedness.

    Which traits can INTPs NOT STAND in people?
    Dishonesty. Obnoxiousness. Pretentiousness.

    What are the traits specifically in ENFPs that INTPs admire/relate/ are attracted to?
    I like ENFPs' bright disposition - certainly very attractive. I also appreciate how many of them genuinely accept people for who they are. Fun people to be around, generally speaking. They're also good at making people feel better, speaking from experience.

    What are the traits specifically in ENFPs that INTPs are annoyed by or dislike?
    Overdone enthusiasm can get annoying. Hyperactivity is fun in small doses, but too much just makes me want to run for the hills. Silence is precious to me.
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    Disclaimer: I only know two ENFPs, only one of which well. Also, I'm an INTx and exhibit only half of the general intP traits.


    Quote Originally Posted by cosmicjourney View Post
    How does one know if he/she is considered to be a close friend of an INTP? How does one know if he/she is in the INTP's inner circle? What do INTPs do/say for/to their close friends that they wouldn't do/say for acquaintances?
    Look at the things they tell you about love interests, people they like, worries they have. Then look at how many of their friends know. If that number is small, you're in the inner circle.

    Generally, if the list is small, it's not because they just haven't told anyone yet: it's because we're not going to tell many people.



    Quote Originally Posted by cosmicjourney View Post
    What traits do INTPs look for close friends?
    Perfection. Sorry. This list is too long.


    Quote Originally Posted by cosmicjourney View Post
    Which traits can INTPs NOT STAND in people?
    When they breathe. Sorry. This list is also too long.



    Quote Originally Posted by cosmicjourney View Post
    What are the traits specifically in ENFPs that INTPs are annoyed by or dislike?
    The first thing that comes to mind is indecisiveness. INTPs are known for being indecisive, but at least we can come to some sort of conclusion. The ENFPs I've known have tended to be unable to form an opinion of their own, possibly for fear it'll hurt someone's feelings - though the simple act of being unable to do so is annoying.

    For instance, if you take them on some new experience then ask them if they liked it, you'll typically be met with "I'm not sure. I mean, I might have, but that could also just be because I thought it was new and thought I might like it. But I'm not sure I thought I'd like it because I didn't know if it'd be fun or not, so that can't be it. Maybe I'm trying to tell myself that I liked it because I'd feel bad for not liking it. Yada yada yada." This is especially irritating when I actually do care whether or not they liked it (and I wasn't just being socially polite).

    Every ENFP I've seen has seemed to also feel they can just wish a better world into place and wish that everybody could just get along and things could be perfect, and seem to be unable to grasp reality.

    Also, your tendency to believe anything, no matter how outlandish (such as "The Secret") is very, very irrational (and therefore annoying).



    Quote Originally Posted by cosmicjourney View Post
    What are the traits specifically in ENFPs that INTPs admire/relate/ are attracted to?
    I'm finding it hard to come up with specifics right now. The negative specifics are generally easier to remember (for me) than positive ones.

    I know that we actually share an interest in typology: something which cannot be said of most people. We generally have a common interest in theories like this or other things involving understanding people - for different reasons of course, but it's still there.



    I've found that ENFPs can be very, very awkward. They can often act like they like you, insist they don't, then spend weeks doubting whether or not they really do... Which makes things awkward.

    And, when you were close enough friends to actually be comfortable hugging them (a rare occurrence for me), this makes that too awkward. Then it gets really awkward when they want a hug and I can't give it to them because of the awkwardness. Then I feel bad because I'm making them feel bad.
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    Quote Originally Posted by copperfish17 View Post
    Female INTP here.
    HOW do I find you in public???

    (sorry. don't mean to hijack the thread...)
    Intuition is the supra-logic that cuts out all the routine processes of thought and leaps straight from the problem to the answer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by INTPness View Post
    uber-sensitive to the point that I can't even speak my mind - I have to walk on eggshells.
    ^^^^ THIS
    Intuition is the supra-logic that cuts out all the routine processes of thought and leaps straight from the problem to the answer.

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