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    Default Why is it so hard for Me to stop focusing on Myself?

    I've been told by a few that I'm obsessed with Myself, and I can't say that I disagree, and I'm not sure if it's a bad thing to be self-obsessed, but it does seem to affect My relationships with others.

    I don't understand why I can't stop focusing on Myself or why I can't pay attention to content that isn't about Me or can't somehow be directed to Me. I will admit, it does get tiresome, but I can't really help it. And I also can't understand why I'm unappreciated and uninteresting to others and moreover, how self-absorption relates to it.

    So I ask: Why?

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    I don't know, I'm a bit iffy on whether starting a thread on it is a step in the right direction.

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    Start talking about others without talking about yourself?

    Avoid using first person?

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    I'll come back when more serious, logically sound responses come in.

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    obviously you haven't run across any really INTERESTING gossip yet in your life
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    Quote Originally Posted by The Ü View Post
    I'll come back when more serious, logically sound responses come in.
    I don't know why you have a tendency to focus on yourself. If you really want to go the MBTI or enneagram route, it could be because your preferred function is an introverted one?

    But really, in a conversation, try to focus the time more on the other person instead. Instead of having the person asking you questions for you to answer about yourself, ask that person questions instead. When you begin thinking that you are focusing your attention on yourself, redirect that attention to someone else.

    Just give more of your attention to someone else.

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    If I wanted to go into the MBTI/enneagram/zodiac route, I would've posted over there. This is a real psychology topic.

    The problem is I have trouble being interested in others, but I want to be admired. I apparently can't make Myself seem interesting enough to do this. I've tried just about everything, and I just can't seem to master it.

    I've been told by many that I'm very self-absorbed and that I'd be more interesting if I was interested in them, and to that I say that they are a bunch of hypocrites.

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    I think this is insecurity. You could start by not taking yourself too seriously. Then, learn how to make fun of yourself. Then, learn how to make fun of other people. Easier said than done I guess.
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    I feel very secure with Myself, believe it or not. I'm relatively happy with Myself, but what makes Me angry is other people who don't give Me attention.

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    You get the attention you want when you make things more about them and less about you. It's tricky.
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