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    Default INTJs and seeking validation

    This struck me as odd - my female INTJ coworker approached me the other day asking me why I never come to her asking for help (junior member on the team, only been here a few months). Adding to that, at times when she perceives me reacting negatively to something she says she says things like "you hate me", or "oh you didn't really want to talk to me did you?".

    ...Huh? I thought INTJs were essentially the last MBTI type to seek validation. What gives? The only thing I can think of is she interprets my lack of approach as an indication that she is not helpful. Perhaps she's trying to understand how she can improve?

    Please help me understand, NTs of the world.

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    Maybe she's not an INTJ, maybe the system is not perfect at describing entire individuals (shocker, right?), maybe what you said about improving, maybe everyone needs a little validation now and again, maybe she's just nervous because she's new, maybe she thinks she's doing something wrong because she's new, maybe she wants to get into your pants...

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    Quote Originally Posted by ohd1122 View Post
    This struck me as odd - my female INTJ coworker approached me the other day asking me why I never come to her asking for help (junior member on the team, only been here a few months). Adding to that, at times when she perceives me reacting negatively to something she says she says things like "you hate me", or "oh you didn't really want to talk to me did you?".

    ...Huh? I thought INTJs were essentially the last MBTI type to seek validation. What gives? The only thing I can think of is she interprets my lack of approach as an indication that she is not helpful. Perhaps she's trying to understand how she can improve?

    Please help me understand, NTs of the world.
    If she's an INTJ, that's called "a sense of humour".

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    Insecurity knows no MBTI boundaries and competence is very important to INTJs.

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    She's trying to be nice and welcoming but that is not a natural skill for us; usually we'll encourage you to discuss things in an inside out manner.

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    she's new and can't properly judge how well she's doing so she's looking for someone else to assess her. That's my guess from the information. Or maybe you hate her and didn't really want to talk to her and SHE CALLED YA ON YA BULLSHIT!

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    No way is she an INTJ. Even if they're not serious, they would not even want to risk something like that being taken seriously. Try INFJ.
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    Is is common for people in the US to wear type badges?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nicodemus View Post
    Is is common for people in the US to wear type badges?
    I have a tattoo actually. But I had a really tough time figuring out my type on my own. So I had to have each prior inscription made into a chain of daisies to hide the incorrect typings.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Saturned View Post
    I have a tattoo actually. But I had a really tough time figuring out my type on my own. So I had to have each prior inscription made into a chain of daisies to hide the incorrect typings.
    The typology equivalent of tramp stamping?

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