Gender stereotypes become less compelling and less meaningful as you get older.
It still causes social awkwardness in some situations, but I find I care less and less about it as I get older. It also helps that I'm learning to be more aware of when people are looking for emotional validation so I can resist the urge to contradict them with logic in situations where it might cause problems to do so.
I think it also helps that my hub is INTJ and likes me the way I am (a mix of steretypical female and male traits, plus some neutral ones), and that I work in a male-dominated field where it's more normal for women like me to exist, so I'm not so alone in my female T-ness.
When I burp...I just say excuse me for being human , or excuse me for being natural, lol! I can sometimes be outspoken too, which makes some people feel weirded out, some respect me for it though. I was thinking about this the other day....should I be more submissive? My boyfriend says that sometimes he feels punked...and that I should listen to him or at least act like it in public (to stroke his ego and make him feel more manly I guess). I just want to be me geesh! Other then that I still wear makeup and a get my hair did .
Fe | Ni | Se | Ti ... 3w4 ... Lawful Neutral ... Johari -Nohari
Fitting into the stereotype isn't necessary at all, especially since you'd probably be happiest with a SO who thinks the stereotype is superficial and irrelevant. Those who fit into the stereotype are everywhere. Not conforming to it makes you unique in a very good way.
I don't understand why anyone expects anybody to be anything other than what they are. Well, actually I do understand, I just find it regrettable. And I resent those who expect that of people. Just keep being who you are Hera, I couldn't think of any context that you wouldn't be pretty. Maybe pretty intimidating.
What's this lamenting about not being able to be conventional? What's so awesome about being conventional?
Here's an idea: find yourself some other unconventional people to hang out with - and revel in each other's unconventionality.
Even my least conventional friends still have expectations for me. My close friends always ask me why I felt awkward being girly and I explained that it's just unnatural to me. I think that in a way most people have these conventions and expectations so to find people who don't have them is rare and difficult.
You just gotta find your own style! Find what is comfortable to you, wear it authentically and with grace and it doesn't matter what is expected (obviously within boundaries of propriety for the situation). But seriously grace and confidence are what matter most for anyone I think.
Your kisses, sweeter than honey. But guess what, so is my money.