I am under the impression that ENTJs are stereotypically perceived as being the finest example of abrasiveness, intimidation, argumentativeness, and assertiveness at its most fierce magnitude. It is presumed that ENTJs have an eternal itch for debate and lean on the edge of their seats with an impatient yearning for an opportunity to deeply criticize.
Simply put, ENTJ is a four letter abbreviation to mean specifically Dutch uncle.
However, I don't meet the foregoing criteria. I'm very agreeable and like to maintain harmony. Certainly, I can painfully engrave my opinions with a verbal chisel into the minds of my peers, or emerge as a catholic school nun armed with a wooden ruler to agonizingly scold any unwarranted words that come out of my friends' mouths ... but why would I want to?
If you don't have to go to war, why give up the Corona in your hand for an M-16? Why sweat blood and bullets with suicidal and psychotic Taliban's in 100 degree weather, when you can choose to deeply unwind in a tropical and breezy island with a purple-stained panorama of a sunset to look forward to?
The same applies for arguments and debates. If its not work-related, or threatening my welfare - why not just throw them the bone?
Acting on a "debative" impulse, without any need to, is not logical or necessary. If I'm a leader of a group and things need to get done, they better get done quickly before the speeding train of my wrath arrives to wreck through any lingering bullshit. At work, I am a seasoned pilot of pushing people's buttons to get what I want and could be considered the modern day Michelangelo of character sculpting. Have you ever had a Dutch boss? If you ever did, a tempered Irish mouth can begin resonate more like dialogue from a childrens book when compared to the roar of an angry corporate lion.
I can easily champion any debate, but why not utilize more constructive and fun-loving verbiage in casual dialogue? When hanging out with friends after a long day, wouldn't it be more stimulating to "have-fun" and joke around - as opposed to exhausting you energy further by shoving irate commands down others' throats?
If you knew me outside of my professional career, you would consider me the most friendly, agreeable and open minded person you've met.
I don't like starting debates unless its in the context of work or my personal finances, and would rather enjoy the savory Corona over a few jokes than have my mouth blasting hard-to-swallow counterpoint bullets like a machine gun. Nor would I want move to Amsterdam with my nephew and chase fiery-debates to become fully certified in argumentology and obstinate studies because debates are just that fun.
I can't fathom how people arrive at the verdict that ENTJs are the at pinnacle of criticism and admonition; do we appear to act that way, but just completely oblivious of it?
Is our friendly manner just considered ENTJs on their best behavior? Personally, I certainly don't consider myself to fit the stereotypical definition.
Can any of you others harmonize?
As you may have noticed, I love to ask tons of questions. Heck, half of post is comprised of questions used to get my point across. I ask questions everywhere I go and to whomever I meet. I can burn out your brain and leave you in a state of complete confusion and loss of identity after a quick one minute interview. Just staring at someone would immediately impose a quizzical look on their face hahah. Are questions a good way of getting a questionable point across? (Trick question courtesy of me having to many Coronas) Hahah yea, I had way to many. I'll probably end up editing this in the morning. Good Night!